20. Why you don’t feel loved – I explain it here:

No matter what someone does, if you have a deep-rooted limiting belief that you don’t deserve love, you will always struggle with feeling loved. You will look for reassurance outside of yourself and feel that nothing the person says or does reassures you long term. You will try to sabotage the relationship because deep down you need to be consistent with your external reality. If you don’t believe that you deserve love and your partner shows you affection and love, there will be a conflict within you. This will create tension and make you do things that sabotage the relationship like having doubts, pushing the person to do more or show you more love, provoke a fight, being jealous, etc.
 
You need to work on the subconscious belief that you don’t deserve love in order to replace it with the belief that YOU DESERVE TO BE LOVED. When you will do that, you will start feeling loved and the feeling will stay without you having to search for proof or reassurance. By doing that, you will find peace within yourself and remove all the pressure you put on your partner. Therefore, your relationship will get better and if you are single, you will be less dependent on finding love outside of yourself and instead be motivated to love yourself more which I’m turn will attract your right partner.
 
Or maybe that you don’t you love yourself? I explain it right here:
 
One of the main reasons you don’t love yourself is because you didn’t learn to love yourself. If you were mistreated in your childhood, heavily critiqued or compared, if you have experienced verbal or physical abuse, if you were bullied, not respected or controlled or dominated, you didn’t have a healthy environment in which you could develop self-love.
 
A child will not put the fault on his parents if he is abused (because a child needs to feel safe) but instead, will put the fault on himself and will start making up beliefs about himself like: I am a bad kid; I don’t deserve to be loved; I am not enough; I don’t deserve to be happy; my needs are not important; etc.
 
Unfortunately, as we are growing up, we bring these negative beliefs and self-worth issues into our adulthood without realising that we are shooting ourself in the foot. We forget that we are not children anymore and that we have power over our life. So we keep dragging these limiting beliefs like a bag of garbage that we refuse to throw out.
 
Today, you don’t depend on anyone anymore, you can start believing that you are lovable and worthy, that you are a good person and that you are enough!
 

19. Why you don’t accept yourself – I explain it here :

If you have trouble accepting yourself, this can stem from your childhood. If you didn’t feel accepted as you were by your parents or caretakers you will have trouble accepting yourself later in life. You have internalized those negative voices in your head and your small loving inner voice is buried somewhere beneath all this noise: “You aren’t good enough”; “Look how better she is than you!; “You are so dumb”; “You cry too much; “You are too this or too that”; “Don’t do this, don’t be like that”. Being constantly critiqued, diminished, compared, laughed at, humiliated or judged will make you think that you are not ok as you are, that you should be something else, that you have to be like other people that you think that they are better than you, that you are damaged or weird, that what you are is not acceptable or ok, that you have to hide what makes you unique and original. The downside of that is that you hide what makes you so unique and beautiful and you learn to be a white sheep surrounded by other white sheep instead of being a pink sheep that is proud to be different.
 
Later in life, you don’t get to know and discover whom you truly are and accept yourself fully with all your facets whatever they are because you are either ashamed or scared to show them. You have to realize first that you don’t have to be anything that yourself since there never was, there is not and there will never be someone exactly like you. It is your uniqueness that makes you valuable and special. You have to learn to embrace your quirks and limits as well as your talents, gifts and difference. Learn to observe those negative voices in your head and to replace them with a kind and accepting voice that ignores that poisonous chattering in your head and instead has a loving and encouraging tone. You don’t have to be perfect, neither better than someone else, neither something else that you already are, you have to be your best version and strive to be better each day. You unique point of comparison should be the yesterday version of yourself.
 
Look at whom you admire and know that you have those same qualities and gifts as them or you can develop them with time. If not, you would not be able to recognize those same characteristics in them. You have to recuperate those facets of yourself that you learned to hide in order to be accepted or loved. Those facets of yourself are waiting for your permission to show themselves and help you become your best version!
 
If your current partner doesn’t accept you as you are, it is because he is your mirror. Your partner is there to mirror to you what you are doing to yourself in order for you to heal. It is a gift in disguise!

The more you learn to accept yourself as you are and less importance you will give about what others think of you. You also have to accept that it’s ok to not be fully accepted by others, it’s ok to not be loved by everyone. You are the only one that has the responsibility to love and accept yourself fully. You are God’s creation (or however you call the creator of the universe) and that makes you special and precious. Never forget that!

1. How not to be manipulated by a man

Here are three tips on how to prevent being manipulated by a man:
 
1. He must be consistent
 
Don’t take into consideration a man’s words but instead look at the consistency of his actions towards you. Is he consistent in giving you attention and time? Is he consistent in calling or texting you? Is he consistent in making you his priority? Is his consistent in making you feel important and valuable?
 
If he’s only giving you attention when he wants something from you, don’t take him seriously. You deserve much better than someone whom is wishy washy. A man that is consistent for a long period of time, shows that he is serious about the relationships he has with you.
 
2. His words are matching his actions
 
Whatever he promises to you, he honors it most of the time. He has the right to change his mind but if he’s only words and no actions, be aware. Don’t be fooled by beautiful words if his actions say otherwise. Him honoring his promises to you shows that you are important and valuable to him.
 
3. Men can be wonderful until….
 
…they get what they want. If he’s charming, loving and caters to your needs and after you give in with sex for example he changes radically, then you fell into his trap. Men have this talent of manipulating you into believing that they are so good to you and can easily wear a mask to make you believe it. As soon as they get what they want, they remove their mask without any shame and you get to see their true nature. How to not fall into that trap? Take your time to get to know him well and don’t give him sex until you both have feelings for each other and you feel ready. By taking your time to really know him, establishing a heart to heart connection and being vulnerable with each other, he will have the time to open his heart and fall in love with you or to leave if he’s not interested in getting to know you other than physically.
 
I hope that those tips bring you more awareness into the psychology of how man can be and you avoid getting into the trap of being manipulated by a man next time you are in a similar situation.

2. How to find self-esteem after a break-up

If you lost your self-esteem after a difficult break-up, there are a few ways you can reclaim your self-esteem. I will share 4 tips in this article:
 
1. Remind yourself that you are God’s creation
 
You are God’s (or whatever name you give to the creator of the universe) creation so that means you are special. There never was, there is not and there will never be someone exactly like you. You are unique and nobody can replace you, therefore you must value yourself accordingly. One day you will find your soulmate and the fact that you are single and heartbroken today doesn’t diminish your value.
 
2. Remind yourself that you are limitless
 
There is nothing that you can not create if you have a dream and the talent for it. No matter how you feel right now: lonely, sad or angry, not worthy or not loved, tell yourself that this is temporary. You are not defined by a man’s love towards you. You are defined by the beauty that resides within you and by the power of the love that you hold into your heart. Take your power back by concentrating on your dreams and objectives and give yourself what you want. Practice self-love during this solitary period and do things that bring you bliss.
 
3. Take pride in sharing whom you really are
 
This is the time to get to know yourself more. What have you left on the side that you would like to reintroduce into your life now there is space for it? What activities or passions are waiting for you to reintroduce into your life? What do you want to create? What do you want to share with the world? You have unique gifts that can benefit the world and you could start sharing these with the ones that would love to benefit from them!
 
4. Take your time to digest your pain
 
If you have difficult emotions that you need to process like anger or sadness, take your time to get through them. The sooner you express them, the shorter the period of mourning the relationship will be. You can write in a journal or talk to someone that you can trust. You can learn from this relationship what you no longer want in a relationship and what lessons you have learned. If this relationship didn’t work out, is because someone else is better for you. It is ok to think about memories or fall into the trap of seeing your ex or wanting to go back to him, nobody is perfect. The important thing is to decide one day that you deserve better and that going back to something that will not work out, is turning in circles and not giving yourself the space to heal.
 
I hope that these tips shed more light on this topic and until next time, much love.

3. Why do you keep going back to your ex? I explain it right here:

Are you one of those women that keeps going back to her ex? You would like to stop doing it but you can’t stop going back?
 
Here are 4 reasons that could explain why you keep falling into the same trap:
 
1. You don’t want to deal with difficult emotions
 
You would rather think about him or try to contact him rather to sit down and feel your emotions. You are afraid that some painful emotions would come up and that you would not be able to process them. I recommend that when you feel that painful emotions rising up, that you write in a journal whatever you feel like writing without judging what you jot down. Write down anything that comes up: anger, sadness, resentment, jealousy; just give yourself the gift of liberating yourself of anything that keeps you stuck. You will feel much better afterwards and you will be less tempted to contact your ex or to give in to his flirting.
 
2. You are not ready to face your abandonment wound
 
You keep hanging on for dear life to him because you are avoiding feeling abandoned or rejected. The little girl in you is hurt and your current separation brings up the unresolved emotions of that little girl in you that didn’t have the occasion to express herself and to have the safe space to do so in order to process whatever feelings she might have. Today, you can take that little girl in you by the hand and listen to her. What does she want to tell you? What emotions does she want to express: sadness, anger, feelings of being abandoned or rejected, feeling unworthy of love, not good enough, not perfect, not lovable? Become the mother that you never had by giving yourself the love and attention that you are missing.
 
3. You hope that this time around he will change
 
He keeps making promises and he is so convincing! You say to yourself that this time around he will keep his promises and that he really understands that you are serious this time. The truth is that he will most probably change in his next relationship and not with you. Why? Because as long as you keep coming back to him you are sending him the same message over and over, which is: keep doing what you are doing because I will keep coming back. You will have to leave him for good in order for him to really understand the lesson and apply it in his next relationship.
 
4. You are not ready to face the truth
 
Cutting the relationship for good is making you scared because that would make you come to some irrational and wrong conclusions:
 
· that there will not be another man that will love you;
· that you are not worthy of love;
· that you will end up alone and lonely;
· that you can’t deal with the pain of losing him for good;
· that you are doing a mistake because he is the one;
· that you should accept him as he is because afterall, he is not so bad.
 
These are limiting beliefs that keep you stuck in place and if you don’t take the time to demystify and transform them, you will lose precious time by staying stuck and not having the joy of experiencing something much better. There is someone out there for you who will treat you with the love, respect and attention that you truly deserve but because you are not willing to let go of these beliefs, you will not get to experience.
 
I hope that these 4 points bring you more awareness into why you keep going back to your ex and that you find a way out of this toxic pattern in order to find the true and bounty love that you deserve!

12. 11 ways to become more irresistible to a quality man by loving yourself more

  1. Don’t wait around for a man to bring you happiness, create your own by following your passions and joy. This way you will not spend your time waiting for a man to call you or text you because you will be busy enjoying your own life.

  2.  Have dreams and objectives and take action each day to achieve them. Dream and be creative by being in your feminine energy but also take action towards your dreams in order to create the life that you dream of by using your masculine energy.

  3. Practice self-awareness and when you start thinking in a negative way, stop and choose to feed yourself a positive thought instead of a negative one. If you let negative thoughts run in your mind, you will get depressed after a while. Instead, observe yourself and switch your thoughts as fast as you can and say to yourself: and what if everything would turn around in a positive way? What can I do in order to have a positive result and where can I let go and let God?

  4. Don’t chase a man but let him chase you. Don’t be that woman that is too much in her masculine energy and is doing everything to get a man. Instead, let the man show you he’s interested in you by putting yourself in a receiving mode and by showing him that you value yourself and your time.

  5. Don’t be dependent on a man financially, create your own financial security. You don’t need a man to take care of you, you have everything in yourself to support yourself financially. By doing so, you will increase your self-esteem and feel more secure without needing a crutch to rely on.

  6. When you have difficult emotions to process, instead of putting the fault on others, choose to express your emotions in a healthy way and see your part of responsibility. It’s so much easier when we try to see how we are contributing to a situation instead of putting ourselves in the position of victim and blaming everything on someone else. Instead of being angry and resentful towards a man, we can learn to express our emotions by talking about us in a responsible way. Express how you feel in a calm manner and accept all your emotions, whatever they are. The more you accept all that you feel, the easier will be for you to express them. Writing down your feelings and your thoughts is a very powerful way of making place to more peace and joy and can make you feel more relaxed when you finally choose to express yourself to him.

  7. Practice self-care by taking care of your 5 senses: sight, touch, taste, hearing and smell – decorate your surroundings in a beautiful way; listen to your favorite relaxing music; eat foods that you enjoy, touch textiles that are either very soft or warm when you need comforting, smell something that makes you happy. Especially when your anxious, taking care of all your senses, will calm you down and bring you in the present moment, where there is not danger. Anxiety tends to makes us be scared of what could happen in the future while choosing to be in the present moment, helps us be aware that we are safe here and now.

  8. Listen to your body: when you are tired, take a nap; when you are hungry, nourish yourself; when you have too much energy, dance or move around. Listening to your body can help you even find your own answers. Someone asks you for a favor but you feel it in your body that you want to say no? Someone touches you in an inappropriate way and you don’t feel comfortable? Your body can be a very wise guide to let you know what is ok and what is not ok with you. 

  9. Put healthy boundaries with others when you feel invaded in your space. This way you will be respected and people will know that they cannot mess with you. The more you respect yourself, the easiest will be for you to say no to people and make them respect you. You are worthy of respect and no one should make you feel that you have to please them and ignore your own boundaries. Choose to love yourself even when other people reject you because nothing is more important than your own opinion of yourself. 

  10. Affirm yourself and say what you think because what you have to say it’s important and valuable. We often have something to say but we just diminish the importance and value of what we have to offer by saying our opinion. The more you express yourself, the more people with take you into account and you will feel that what you have to say has value even if no one thinks the way you do or agrees with you. Allow yourself to be different and unique, have the courage to be a pink sheep between a multitude of white sheep. 

  11. Learn to develop an emotional connection before having a physical connection with a man. Don’t give in to sex before you are sure you love this man and this man loves you back. A man will never fall in love with you because you give him his body. A man needs to know and have access to your heart and not your body in order to fall in love with you. Take your time 2 months or more if you can before going further physically with a man and if you feel pressure from him, then run!

    Let me know your thoughts in the comment box below!

16. The 20 deadly mistakes that will impede you from attracting your Soulmate

1. Don’t settle for any guy, just because you are afraid of being alone

Don’t be afraid of your own shadow, you can learn to have so much fun by yourself. Find your passions, find what brings you joy and soon, you will see that you can have so much fun being alone. By learning to be happy, joyous and have fun by yourself, you will not run after the company of a man. Therefore, your Soulmate will feel attracted to be in your company and not repelled because you need him. He would want to bring you more joy because you are already happy by yourself. He would not want to be the only reason that you feel happy in your life because that would put a lot of pressure on him and make him afraid of losing his freedom. By being alone, you learn to discover yourself, whom you really are, what are the parts of yourself that want to come to the surface and be acknowledged by you in order for you to become your best version. Discovering and knowing yourself should be your life mission and by doing that you will learn to love your own company.

2. Don’t run after a guy, he’s the one to chase after you

You would feel so much more relax if you would only get this one thing: you don’t need to run or chase after a man! Your soulmate will do all the chasing for you! He would want to be in your company the most often possible so he would always try to text you, call you, see you. It is so easy when you are dating your Soulmate because they give you the opportunity to be in your feminine energy and lean back and they can show themselves to you in their masculine energy which is all about getting their prize, which is you! So sit in your Queen chair and relax and if you feel that you have to do the chasing, then run, he is not your soulmate!

3. Do not think that a man can make you happy

The only responsible person to make you happy is yourself. Be the Ice Cream Sundae and let him be the red cherry on top! If you are looking for a man to bring happiness in your life, you are giving all your power away because you don’t rely on yourself to be happy. Men feel when a woman is desperate and needs them and they want to feel that you want to be with them not because you need them but because they complement you. There is a big difference! They don’t want to feel like they are your crutch but rather the person that adds value to your life. Let them be the cherry on the top and not the other way around.

4. Don’t confuse sexual attraction with him being your soulmate

We often feel attracted to the wrong type of guy because it reminds us of something familiar. If we had an emotional or physical absent father in our childhood, a bad boy would feel very alluring to us because it reminds us of someone whom is not available to us. We confuse this familiarity to feeling a connection with these types of men and we fall into the trap of thinking that we have finally found the person that is meant for us which is shooting ourselves in the foot. These are the wrong type of men to try to have a love relationship with them. The more that they will run from us, the more that we will feel not important and abandoned which will bring up unresolved emotional wounds from the past. Your Soulmate will always make you feel important and loved and on the contrary, bad boys will make you feel not important, not loved and not cherished. Say no to the familiar bad boy and work on your mindset by refusing to accept men in your life that treat you like their last priority.

5. Don’t search in your head what to do, what to text, when to call

The answer doesn’t lie in your head but lies in your heart. If you feel like texting him, do it because you feel like it not because you have to. Be free, listen to your heart and to your intuition. Dating should be fun and not feel like a chessboard game or a transaction. Accept yourself as you are as well as your needs and don’t try to decide with your mind what you should do or say. Connect to your feminine energy and let it guide you in your decisions by listening to your intuition. If you just want to sit back and let him to all the texting and calling, do that. If you need to reach to him one day, just do it but make sure it doesn’t come from fear or desperation but from a genuine need to connect.

6. Do not wear a mask, be completely your authentic self

You have to learn to accept yourself fully before meeting your soulmate. Sharing your authentic self, with your defaults and shadows (because you don’t need to be perfect), will help you build emotional intimacy with your soulmate. You will never be perfect, therefore accepting yourself will bring you peace of mind and will help you to accept that your soulmate is not perfect either. By accepting yourself fully, you will accept to show your vulnerable side and build a real emotional connection that will bring you closer with time. By wearing a mask, he will not be able to connect with and know the real you, therefore not building a relationship on the basis of a heart to heart connection. With time, you will end up feeling trapped and not feeling free to be whom you really are by fear of losing your partner.

7. Don’t expect him to fulfill all your needs

Unconditional love means accepting your partner as he is even if he doesn’t meet all your needs the way you want him to and when you want him to. Real unconditional love allows your soulmate to be himself and free to say yes or no to your requests at the risk of you not always being satisfied. Therefore, learn to attend to your own needs first and let him bring you more abundance than you already have by taking care of your needs first. Also, do not attend to all his needs hoping that he will do the same in return. This would be more of a manipulative tactic and you will end up being unsatisfied and frustrated. You should concentrate on fulfilling your own needs first therefore, let him feel free when he wants to do something for you and bring you more happiness. That doesn’t mean that you should be ok with him never attending to your needs, there should always be a balance and you should feel that he wants to make you happy the best that he can.

8. Don’t accept mistreatment from a man

Do not let a man treat you with less respect than you would like your own daughter to be treated (if you had one!). Put yourself in the shoes of a mother that doesn’t want her daughter to be treated badly and have the same high standards for yourself. Work on your mindset each day and repeat the following positive affirmations: I deserve to be treated with respect; I am valuable and am treated in accordance; I am God’s child; therefore, I am treated like a Queen (change the affirmations as per your preference). Learn to put boundaries and to treat yourself with the most respect if you want to be treated accordingly.

9. Don’t ignore your past trauma and emotional wounds

If you ignore your past trauma and emotional wounds, you will attract karmic partners which will have the mission of healing you by targeting your unhealed emotional wounds. Go seek a professional that can help you heal, express your unresolved emotional trauma and also help you with your mindset. The more you work on yourself, the more you will be close to attracting your ultimate soulmate (true love). If you have unresolved trauma and emotional wounds, you should not be dating but rather concentrate yourself on healing unless you want to use your karmic relationships to trigger your hurts in order to heal faster. You have the choice!

10. Do not refuse to love yourself

You can not attract your soulmate if you are looking for love outside of yourself and refuse to love yourself. Don’t lose your time dating and chasing men hoping that you will find someone to love you. You will only meet men that mirror your lack of self-love, therefore not love you or loving you with conditions. If you refuse to give yourself the love that resides in your heart and that is waiting for you to claim it, you will lose precious years trying to find love. The fastest and easiest way to find love is to love yourself first. Then, you will be able to attract your soulmate whom will reflect your self-love, therefore truly love you without conditions.

11. Do not give yourself physically before establishing an emotional connection with a man

Women often make the mistake of having sex with a man before establishing a real emotional connection with a man. If you fall into this trap, you will not give him the chance to really know you and discover whom you really are. How can he love you if he doesn’t know whom you really are? Because women are afraid of showing their real emotions and opening themselves emotionally, they would rather have sex very fast into the relationships with the wrong impression that this is what will make the man fall in love with them. You have to enter his heart before anything else. Men don’t get attached emotionally because they have sex with you as we do. On the contrary, men fall in love with you when you enter in their heart and feel connected to you.

12. Don’t try to impress him

You don’t need to impress a man, you just need to be yourself. What do you like about yourself? What do you admire in other women? Because whatever you are envious of or admire in other women, you also have or you can develop more. The more qualities you perceive in other women, the more it says about you and you need to realize that all these qualities are your own reflection. Every woman has qualities and yourself included, the only work you have to do is to discover your own treasure of qualities that you already possess. Once you figure that out, you can rest assured that you don’t need to impress no one and be confident with yourself as you are because you are enough!

13. Don’t fall into the trap of trying to buy love

You don’t need to do or give anything in order to be loved. You are lovable as you are just because you are you, unique and loveable. We have been taught early in childhood that in order to be loved, we need to be a certain way or to concentrate ourselves on others’ needs in order to have our own needs met. You need to unlearn this toxic pattern of looking for love outside of yourself by doing too much for others and take your power back. Consequently, you will redirect your energy on yourself and stop wasting your energy in order to buy love from men. Repeat this positive affirmation: I deserve to be loved for whom I am, and you will stop searching for ways to prove to men that you deserve their love. Instead, you will believe that you deserve love simply because you are valuable as you are.

14. Don’t be a victim of your past relationships

Don’t stay in the past by overthinking your past mistakes or over whomever did you wrong. You are wasting your precious time and by not letting the old energy go, you will not be able to open yourself up to new possibilities. Digest whatever you have to digest without being in your head all the time and accept your hurt. Try to forgive for yourself first (grudge will eat you from the inside out) and love that part of yourself that accepted to be mistreated. Learn the lessons that those experiences have taught you and be grateful that today you know better and you know what you deserve and what you don’t want to experience anymore. Write a letter if you need to and then tear it up in pieces so that you let go whatever you need to let go. You will release old and stagnant energy and make place for joy to enter into your heart. By stopping the victim role, you will feel so much more empowered and in control over your life!

15. Don’t stay with someone who cheated on you

If you are still in a relationship where you were cheated on and you decided to stay because you are afraid of losing him it means you don’t love yourself enough to know that you deserve someone that is loyal to you. There will always be a feeling that never goes away like a dark spot on a beautiful pink flower. Loyal men exist and you deserve one but you have to know your value first and not be afraid of being alone for a while. There are men that regret their mistake and will not do it again and others will do it over and over. Also, when we are cheated on, we always know it unless you are really cut from your intuition. Our 6th sense warns us but sometimes we choose to trust what others say (him denying it) or continue our life as if nothing happened. If you deny your intuition, you will not learn to trust yourself first and you risk making other mistakes in your life because when we don’t listen to our intuition, we always end up regretting it.

16. Don’t confuse sex with an emotional connection

Some of us don’t know what a real emotional connection is because we haven’t experienced what a real intimate emotional connection with our caretakers means. This would make us think that having sex is connecting with someone at the deepest level. This is one of the biggest mistakes that you can make because men will not take you seriously and think that you do that with every man that you meet. It’s not your fault, because this is something that you have to learn: to open yourself to your emotions, to learn how to express yourself, to have the courage to be vulnerable when you open your heart to someone. You have to learn to build an emotional connection first and when you feel close at an emotional level, than you can go further and experience a physical connection and not the other way around.

17. Don’t let yourself be manipulated by men

Men can be manipulative to get what they want from you (often sex and then they are not interested anymore) so don’t believe what they say but learn to see their actions. How are they behaving towards you with time? If you are not giving in to what they want, are they interested in spending time with you to get to know you? Are they trying to establish a heart to heart connection with you or rather give you crumbs of their time and put pressure on you? Always listen to your gut and show them that you respect yourself and that you value yourself enough to not give in to their pressure or manipulation.

18. Do not convince yourself that you are happy alone

No one is happy alone all their life because we all crave a love partnership but you can make yourself believe that you are because your ego tries to scare you in order to protect you. Maybe you’ve been hurt numerous times, maybe you don’t believe in love anymore, maybe you think there are no good men out there or that you will never meet your soulmate. Instead of being negative and lose hope, try to make yourself happy and love yourself first but don’t close yourself up because you might pass by a beautiful chance of meeting your soulmate. Try to heal first whatever you have to heal so that you don’t meet any karmic partners but you put all the chances on your side in order to meet your true love soulmate.

It’s when I decided to love myself in an unconditional way that I started attracting my True Love Soulmate. Everything began with a decision to love myself first and stop looking for love outside of myself. A True Love Soulmate will offer you a kind of love that heals all the lack of love you have experienced in your love relationships and childhood. Your true love soulmate was chosen especially for you in a complementary and healing way so yes, you have to be ready for it! It would be such a waste if you would meet your life partner soulmate before the right time, because you would either have difficulty receiving so such love or you would sabotage the relationship because you would not feel deserving of such love. Everything comes to you in divine timing!

19. Do not try to save a guy in order to value yourself

Do you always choose those guys that need to be rescued only to find out that they don’t want to change or to be rescued? What hides behind that pattern is the fact that you want to be loved and valued and your belief that you need to work for it. What you need to work on is your limiting belief that you can’t be loved for simply being you. You need to accept yourself as you are and work on your belief that you can simply be loved and valued for being you without needing to save anyone.

20. Do not refuse to deal with and express your emotions

Refusing to get in touch with your emotions and being in your head will make you attract emotional immature or unavailable men which is not what you want. You need to be in contact with your emotions first before manifesting someone whom is in contact with his own emotions. You will fall into the pattern of wanting him to talk about his uncomfortable emotions but you will cut yourself from your difficult emotions and try to make sense of it all with your reasoning and your ego which will make your partner want to shot down even more. Be willing to get out of your head and go into your heart and express yourself as you wish: on your laptop, to your partner, on a letter, to a friend. It make take time and it is ok. It’s not always easy to feel what is uncomfortable to feel if all your life you have been taught to analyze and not feel. Learn to go into your heart rather than spinning like hamster on a wheel in your own head.

I have done myself most of the mistakes described above so there is not judgment on my part (absolutely none!). If I can help you stop a single pattern by making you realize that something will be of detriment to you in manifesting your Soulmate, then I have done my job!

17. How Cinderella learned to communicate with her love partner

Once upon a time, there was a girl named Cinderella whom didn’t know how to express her true emotions with her love partner. She would get upset and blame him for how she felt. Nobody taught her how to get into contact with her emotions and whenever she would be submerged by painful feelings, she would try to find a solution outside of her by blaming someone else. This was causing her more trouble since nobody wanted to take the responsibility of her own pain.

She later learned that she was responsible of mothering herself by being empathic to herself and that behind every difficult emotion there was a lesson for her to learn or she would discover a part of herself that she was trying to deny or hide. She learned how to cry when she was sad, how to express her intensity when she was angry, how to accept her feelings of shame or guilt, how to forgive others by choosing to let go of her resentment. She slowly discovered whom she truly was, what she wanted out of life, she healed her own emotional wounds and she would no longer be triggered by what other said or did to her. When there was no more heartbreak to be triggered, she would feel safe and at peace no matter how others would react around her. She also learned to identify her limiting beliefs that were keeping her from loving herself or from accepting love from others. She was slowly but surely becoming a Queen, a woman that took responsibility for her own emotions and emotional scars by being loving to herself first.

Cinderella learned how to communicate her feelings without blaming her love partner and she took responsibility for how she felt. This way of being made her feel empowered even if she had to accept to be vulnerable and take the risk of being rejected. She knew that no matter how her love partner would react to what she had to say, she could always mother herself and be there for herself. She felt free of being herself no matter the circumstances.

Surprisingly, when she started doing that, her love partner stopped running away and listened to her because he was no longer feeling guilty or pressured to be around her toxic behavior. She communicated to him that she only needed to be listened without being interrupted and then she would listen to him. They slowly learned how to communicate without interrupting each other and everything become so much easier and free-flowing. By facing her own shadows, Cinderella learned how to truly be herself, authentic and vulnerable in front of the man she loved. Her communication skills improved and her love relationship improved as well as a result of the work she did on herself.

And you, do you have trouble communicating in your relationships? Is your love partner available emotionally when you have deeper issues to discuss? Or do they run when you need them the most because they don’t know how to deal with your anger or sadness? Don’t be like Cinderella whom felt abandoned each time she would try to fix the problem outside of herself instead of looking at her own shadow and then try to communicate in a responsible way with her love partner.