How to get unstuck in your life for the spiritual wounded woman!
If you feel stuck in your life right now and you have deep wounds from the past, I want you to know that you can get on the other side of the tunnel. You might not probably see the light at the end of the tunnel right now, but I promise you that that light exists.
It does require some work on your part and for you to know some tools and this is why I am writing this article.
I was once stuck in many areas of my life and I had to do the required work to get unstuck.
1stand most important thing that you need to understand is that you need to work at a deeper level than you might be used to. If you try affirmations here and there, crystals, candles or other spiritual tools but you don’t attend to the real blockages that you have, you will stay stuck. Yes, crystals are wonderful and potent as affirmations are but if your subconscious beliefs and your emotional blockages and ingrained patterns don’t get released and transformed, you will not change your overall frequency. You will stay in a low vibrational frequency that will attract to you more of that you don’t want, lack and unhappiness.
Wanting to use spiritual tools without doing the deep level work on yourself is like putting pink icing and flowers on a dry cake. The icing doesn’t change anything if the cake itself is not good. But when the cake itself is moist, not too sweet, creamy and delicious, the icing can be a very nice touch but won’t change the overall experience of the cake. So my point here is to work on the cake and the icing will only enhance the overall experience!
Now that I have made a point, let’s get back to the serious stuff. You got emotions trapped in your body coming from your past that you didn’t get to express and release. You got limiting beliefs that you bought in your head in order to survive and that today tax you from abundance and happiness. You got ingrained patterns that you act on without even thinking or realizing that they sabotage you.
So how do we transform and release the junk?
Tool number 1: you take the most cheap and ordinary journal or piece of paper (I have no money excuse won’t work here!) and you start writing. You address anything that makes you sad, disappointed, mad, envious, jealous, angry, rejected, etc….The purpose of this exercice is for you to start following the thread that will bring you to your limiting beliefs. Now it’s not the time to analyze or try to understand what you are jotting down on paper because it won’t make any sense to you and it doesn’t have to. These emotions might come from a very long time ago in your life so it’s normal to not understand them. So don’t try to!
What you are actually doing here, is taking responsibility for your life by starting your healing journey and it starts with releasing any thoughts and emotions that come up to the surface. Your rational mind will try to sabotage you so you have to push it away and let yourself express your emotions on paper. You don’t have to write a thesis, stop trying too hard, nobody will see what you are writhing down, you won’t get a mark on your paper! So let yourself loose and free and be gentle and loving to yourself. Pat yourself on the back because you are taking the first step on your healing journey! I am proud of you! And if you reading this article and are thinking that you don’t have time to write, get this: your life will stay the same and you’ll be stuck in a rut! Make a priority of doing the work that will bring you on the other side of the tunnel! When you get your priorities straight, guess what? Time magically appears! Besides, nobody can do the work but you!
Tool number 2: Once you have expressed your thoughts, feelings and emotions, go back and reread everything and start underlying your limiting beliefs because they will inevitably come up.
Today, I felt miserable and lonely. He never called me nor texted me. I waited the whole day for him to give me a sign and nothing….I am so unwanted…I feel so unlovable….being alone feels so lonely….
So as you see above, your limiting beliefs might be: I am unwanted, I am unlovable, etc.
Not that you have identified your limiting beliefs, it’s time to transform and choose more empowering beliefs because you know that your beliefs attract your reality and heavy emotions keep your vibration low. Low vibration equals manifesting more of what you don’t want to manifest!
Now make a table with two columns in write the negative beliefs in the left column and the new positive beliefs in the right column. Example: I am lovable and loved. People find me irresistible. You create your own positive and empowering beliefs, based on what resonates with you the most.
Now remember what I was saying earlier, that affirmations are not enough but there is a twist to my point. What matters when it comes to affirmations, is the timing that you are doing them. If you are doing them randomly during the day, only your conscious mind will be aware of them. But if you do them at specific moments of the day or during meditation when you brain is in theta or alpha waves, your subconscious mind will be able to be reprogramed with the new positive beliefs. Since your subconscious mind drives everything when it comes to your thoughts, emotions and actions, this is the correct way to do your affirmations!
The best timing to do affirmations is: 1) as soon as you wake up in the morning when you are still a little sleepy; 2) when you are almost falling asleep; 3) at the end of your meditation (if you meditate). If you are doing positive affirmations for at least 30 days at these peak moments of the day, you will transform your limiting beliefs and by doing that, your life will start transforming as well.
Your life is a mirror reflection of your beliefs about yourself, the world that surrounds you and of your sense of worth and deservedness. By transforming your mindset, you will transform your life!
Tool number 3: Now that you are more aware of the reasons you were feeling the way you were feeling and the limiting beliefs that were blocking you from manifesting your desired outcomes, you also realize that you are not a victim of the past anymore. That you are not a victim of your circumstances anymore and that today as an adult you can change your life because you don’t depend on anyone anymore like you used to depend on your caretakers as a child. You now have power over your life!
So now it’s time to change your sabotaging behaviors and patterns by again….talking to your subconscious mind. If you want permanent and real change, the key is always to do the work at the subconscious level, meaning that you have to reprogram your subconscious mind.
Only forcing a positive attitude and trying to have positive thoughts and doing affirmations when your brain is not in a state where in can be reprogramed (beta, gamma waves), you will not be able to change anything at the subconscious level. The subconscious mind is responsible of 90% of your thoughts, beliefs, emotions and actions so this is important for you to understand! If the work is not being done at the subconscious level that manipulates you like a puppet on strings, you will be a forever victim of your subconscious mind! But once you understand this important point, you are on your way to transforming your life!
So how do you transform your ingrained patterns that helped you to survive until now but sabotaged you out of getting what you really want and need? You talk to yourself like you would talk to your inner child in these peak moments I was talking about above.
I am now a lovable and worthy person. I can take my rightful place in this world. I can confidently ask for what I want and respect myself at all times. I love and accept myself fully and each day I am becoming a more authentic version of myself. I love myself.
Don’t use negative words or negative form when you are doing affirmations or when you are changing your patterns. Example: I don’t get rejected anymore. I don’t have debt anymore. Instead use: I am lovable and loved. I am creating more financial abundance.
By doing this loving self-talk to that inner child in you that feels like a victim of her circumstances, you reprogram your subconscious mind and by doing so, you will start to behave, to think and to act differently in a more empowered way! By stopping the sabotaging behaviors, you once had, you start attracting to yourself exactly what you want and need!
In conclusion, your present life and circumstances stem from your blocked emotions, your limiting beliefs and your ingrained patterns. Once you act on them at the subconscious level, your life will start mirroring back to you your new frequency and beliefs. You will start being a better version of yourself without forcing anything. You will still use your fun spiritual tools but they will only be the icing on the cake! So have that cake and eat it too! You can have abundance at all levels! If I managed to go from lack to abundance in my life and I was exactly where you are right now, that makes it possible for you as well! But do the work, you are worth it future Queen!
Mystical Queen Goddess
Counseling therapist, spiritual guide and Creator of the Transformation 360 method.