How to shift into a new identity

How to shift your old self into a new identity! 

We identify ourselves to old versions of us that no longer serve us. Its so sad that so many of us end up living all our lives from an identity that is no longer needed…and that was created very long ago since our childhood…

If we identify ourselves as not being worthy of love, we will attract partners that treat us to feel not worthy of love. We also act from a place of not being worthy which attracts to us the love partners that will make that belief about ourselves, even stronger.

If we identify ourselves as someone whom is not good with money, we will take decisions that are not good for our financial situation. This will bring forth more situations that will make us feel not good when it comes to dealing with money.

If you identity yourself as a smoker, you will have trouble getting rid of the habit of smoking! 

And this goes for any area of your life, it could be the way you eat, the way you sabotage yourself, it’s all related to the identity you have about yourself. We always try to keep that identity true for ourselves so that our ego doesn’t panic for losing control! 

This continuous loop of identifying ourselves to a certain identity, taking actions from that place and continuing having the same results make the belief around that identity stronger with years making our life proof that our belief around whom we thaught we were was indeed true!

Nothing can be more false.

We become whom we want to become and if our intention is to become a new self, we have the power within us to make it reality.

You just need to know how and also realize that you can not become a new you if you continue holding on to the identity you have created for yourself. The key is to imprint that new identity on your subconscious mind that is influencing 95% of your thoughts, feelings and actions. 

Here are easy processes to doing that:

1.      Be grateful for the old you that helped you survive whenever you needed to survive. She is the one to whom you owe being alive today and still continuing on your path in spite of all the hard things you went through. Be at peace that dying to your old self doesn’t mean that you are losing something. Choose the perspective that by letting her go, you are opening yourself to gain something instead of losing something. By realizing that you are opening new doors and opportunities for you when letting the old version of you go, you’ll be able to let her go more easily.

2.      Imprint your new identity in your subconscious mind by implementing most of these practices if you can (the more, the merrier):

  • Each day, as soon as you wake up, say affirmations in your mind that speak about the new identity you want to create, example: I am a woman that manages well her money
  • Remove from your environment anything that reminds you of your old self and makes you feel stuck in the old self (example: get rid of that old bag that reminds you that you were so broke in the past and get a new one if you can)
  • Remove from your environment anything that will not help your new habits example: playstation if you want to be more productive if your playstation keeps you stuck in your old habits
  • Do a Youtube meditation that puts you in a very relaxed state and create new beliefs and a new identity in your mind to imprint them in your subconscious mind to make a powerful shift of identity, during which you say things to yourself that are part of that new identity you wish for yourself. You can say affirmations and simply talk to yourself to tell yourself a new story: the new you that is taking charge!
  • When in doubt about how the new you would think, feel and behave, ask your inner Queen for advice (your Queen archetype always has the right answer!)

3.     Continue observing the new you that is thinking, feeling and acting differently and remind yourself each day whom you have become to make that new identity take roots even more!

Any questions? Share them below! 

Happy shifting!  

Bianca aka Mystical Queen Goddess

The truth about money energy

 

Your money story is not your fault. You’ve been led to believe that money is the evil guy in society. You’ve been led to believe that money is scarce, that rich people are evil and selfish, that you could not have more than enough, that money is dirty and the root of all evil in the world.

So let me ask you: how is this mindset around money helping you to create a good life for yourself because with such limiting beliefs around money, you have no choice but to run away from money like you run from the plague! Guess what? Money is always mirroring you so if you are afraid of it, money will run away from you too! 

Instead of painting only the negative image around money (which obviously is not the fault of money but the fault of people that do bad things with the neutral energy of money), why don’t we try to paint the positive image around money and reveal the truth around the frequency of money?

How would it feel to have more money for the education of your children?

How would it feel to have more money in order to eat healthier?

How would it feel to have financial freedom?

How would it feel to be able to help anyone you want to help financially?

How would it feel to be able to renovate your house the way you’ve always wanted?

How would it feel to have enough money that you don’t have to worry  about not having enough money anymore?

The truth is that money is what you make of it. You are ultimately the one that can create a positive story vs a negative story around money because the energy of money is neutral. You are the one giving it its meaning and not the other way around! If you are a good person at your core and you have a good heart, you will do good with your  money. If you are a bad person at your core (which I am guessing you are not!), you will definitely do evil things with money!  But in both cases, you are the one giving money to money and not the other way around so take your power back and give money its innocence! 

Yes, you’ve been manipulated into thinking that money is corrupting people or in reality there are people that have wrong values and that shows up in their life! You’ve been manipulated to think that money is the root of all evil, when the truth is that that there are pure evil people out there that are obsessed with money. Money is not the root of all evil, money is an energy that provides opportunities, possibilities, and the chance to improve your life and the life of the ones that you love and care for. 

But let me ask you something. Aren’t you a woman that has good values and a good heart? Aren’t you a woman that wants the best for others? Aren’t you a woman that wants the best for her kids and her loved ones? Aren’t you a woman that wants to make money contributing to the improvement of our world and to feel fulfilled while making lots of money? So what would you punish yourself out  of the freedom money can provide you because there are pure evil people out there? 

How is it fair for yourself to live in lack as a good person while an evil person lives in financial abundance? Because let’s face it: money doesn’t’ discriminate. Money comes to those whom want and are open to receive it! Money is not racist, not sexist, not homophobe, money just is and you are calling it in with your subconscious beliefs around it and the relationship you have built with money.

The ultimately truth is that you can be:

– Rich and a good person

– Financially free and a generous person

– Have enough money and help the causes and people you want to

– You get to choose whom you want to be and your identity around money

Nobody has to right to choose for you, only you do!

So what do you choose to believe about the energy of money and how do you wish to shift your identity around money? Take you power back and rebuilt your relationship with money so that money treats you the way you want to be treated!

Bianca aka Mystical Queen Goddess

 

How to transform trauma into an abundant life!

How to transform traumatic experiences into an abundant life!

We all have trauma from our past, some more than others. In life, we have two choice when it comes to our traumas.

Either we ignore them and deal with the aftermath of repressed emotions, ingrained patterns and limiting beliefs or we face them with courage, knowing that a little bit of uncomfortable emotional release and writing your thoughts to identify your limiting beliefs, it’s worth the big rewards of releasing and transforming trauma.

So what are the benefits of releasing trauma? It’s so easy to get traumatized (each child lives a traumatic event in a different way and interprets it in a different way), but not that easy to identify it and know exactly the scars that it left in us and still has an impact on the way we think, we feel and act in your life therefore in the way we manifest things, situations or people in our life.

Either lack or abundance, we are creators. By healing our trauma, we go from manifesting lack and scarcity to manifesting abundance at all levels!

Releasing trauma means releasing stuck emotions from the body like anger, resentment, sadness, grief, jealousy, envy, etc. It means that the body doesn’t have to cope with holding on two those toxic and low vibrating emotions, therefore releasing the energy that you probably might lack. It could also mean that those stuck emotions won’t have to crystalize in your body, leaving you prone to certain diseases that the body develops in order to cope with the trauma your are holding in it.

By releasing your stuck emotions, you will get access to natural and more joyful emotions and feelings like more joy, hope, positivity, compassion and love. As I mentioned before, you will regain back the energy that you were spending on keeping your trauma emotions stuck in your body by not expressing and releasing them.

By releasing trapped emotions in your body, you get to next stage which is identifying your limiting beliefs. Limiting beliefs are beliefs that limit you from believing in the limitless abundance of life and in the limitless potential that you possess. These limiting beliefs keep you stuck in a robotic way of behaving because they drive your thoughts, emotions and resulting behaviors.

If you believe that you are not worthy of love, you will sabotage your love relationships. If you believe that money is scarce, you will subconsciously behave in a way in which you will always end up feeling that money is scarce. If you believe that the world is a dangerous place to live in, you will end up isolating yourself at home and get depressed and lonely. Each limiting beliefs eats away at your potential of living life at its fullest and stops you from having access to and expressing your full potential.

As a consequence of transforming your limiting beliefs, your patterns will start to change because once your change your beliefs, your thoughts change, your emotions change and your behaviors change. It’s a natural way of behaving, always stemming from your beliefs. If you think you are valuable, you will not let a man treat you in a way that makes you feel not valuable. If you think money is your best friend, you will always feel and be abundant, when it comes to money. If you think your opinion is valuable, you will not hesitate giving your opinion even if that could ruffle some feathers! There is no limit to what you can be, have and do when you remove the limits of your mindset!

When you have a negative and limiting belief, you will feel low vibrational emotions, you will lack motivation, you will have negative thoughts, resulting in sabotaging behaviors that will not bring you the results you wish. Versus when you have a positive and expansive belief, where you will feel joy and hope, therefore having positive and hopeful thoughts, which will result in behavior that will bring you the manifestation you wish for.

By working on your trauma and releasing the junk, ingrained patterns and limiting beliefs, your energetical frequency goes higher and higher with each trauma that you tackle and heal. By raising your energetical frequency, you rise up on the level of manifestation and you manifest better situations, better opportunities, better partners, more money, more self-love and self-confidence as well as more abundance at all levels! The secret of manifesting abundance is always frequency, the higher the frequency, the more powerful manifestor you become!

As you can see, healing trauma has numerous benefits which go from, gaining energy, being healthier, accessing your full potential and manifesting abundance, changing your behaviors to more empowering ones, raising your frequency, which in turn raises your power of manifestation and gives you access to a life of abundance!

I speak from my own transformation experience and how I went from having a trauma-induced lack mindset to an abundance mindset and my life completely changed and I have today abundance at all levels. You can too if you are serious about healing your trauma, what are you waiting for? Are you ready to do the work?

Mystical Queen Goddess
Spiritual and manifestation guide, creator of the Transformation 360 method and counselling therapist

How to get unstuck in life – for the spiritual wounded woman!

How to get unstuck in your life for the spiritual wounded woman!
 
If you feel stuck in your life right now and you have deep wounds from the past, I want you to know that you can get on the other side of the tunnel. You might not probably see the light at the end of the tunnel right now, but I promise you that that light exists.
 
It does require some work on your part and for you to know some tools and this is why I am writing this article.
 
I was once stuck in many areas of my life and I had to do the required work to get unstuck.
 
1stand most important thing that you need to understand is that you need to work at a deeper level than you might be used to. If you try affirmations here and there, crystals, candles or other spiritual tools but you don’t attend to the real blockages that you have, you will stay stuck. Yes, crystals are wonderful and potent as affirmations are but if your subconscious beliefs and your emotional blockages and ingrained patterns don’t get released and transformed, you will not change your overall frequency. You will stay in a low vibrational frequency that will attract to you more of that you don’t want, lack and unhappiness.
 
Wanting to use spiritual tools without doing the deep level work on yourself is like putting pink icing and flowers on a dry cake. The icing doesn’t change anything if the cake itself is not good. But when the cake itself is moist, not too sweet, creamy and delicious, the icing can be a very nice touch but won’t change the overall experience of the cake. So my point here is to work on the cake and the icing will only enhance the overall experience!
 
Now that I have made a point, let’s get back to the serious stuff. You got emotions trapped in your body coming from your past that you didn’t get to express and release. You got limiting beliefs that you bought in your head in order to survive and that today tax you from abundance and happiness. You got ingrained patterns that you act on without even thinking or realizing that they sabotage you.
 
So how do we transform and release the junk?
 
Tool number 1: you take the most cheap and ordinary journal or piece of paper (I have no money excuse won’t work here!) and you start writing. You address anything that makes you sad, disappointed, mad, envious, jealous, angry, rejected, etc….The purpose of this exercice is for you to start following the thread that will bring you to your limiting beliefs. Now it’s not the time to analyze or try to understand what you are jotting down on paper because it won’t make any sense to you and it doesn’t have to. These emotions might come from a very long time ago in your life so it’s normal to not understand them. So don’t try to!
 
What you are actually doing here, is taking responsibility for your life by starting your healing journey and it starts with releasing any thoughts and emotions that come up to the surface. Your rational mind will try to sabotage you so you have to push it away and let yourself express your emotions on paper. You don’t have to write a thesis, stop trying too hard, nobody will see what you are writhing down, you won’t get a mark on your paper! So let yourself loose and free and be gentle and loving to yourself. Pat yourself on the back because you are taking the first step on your healing journey! I am proud of you! And if you reading this article and are thinking that you don’t have time to write, get this: your life will stay the same and you’ll be stuck in a rut! Make a priority of doing the work that will bring you on the other side of the tunnel! When you get your priorities straight, guess what? Time magically appears! Besides, nobody can do the work but you!
 
Tool number 2: Once you have expressed your thoughts, feelings and emotions, go back and reread everything and start underlying your limiting beliefs because they will inevitably come up.
 
Example:
Today, I felt miserable and lonely. He never called me nor texted me. I waited the whole day for him to give me a sign and nothing….I am so unwantedI feel so unlovable….being alone feels so lonely….
 
So as you see above, your limiting beliefs might be: I am unwanted, I am unlovable, etc.
 
Not that you have identified your limiting beliefs, it’s time to transform and choose more empowering beliefs because you know that your beliefs attract your reality and heavy emotions keep your vibration low. Low vibration equals manifesting more of what you don’t want to manifest!
 
Now make a table with two columns in write the negative beliefs in the left column and the new positive beliefs in the right column. Example: I am lovable and loved. People find me irresistible. You create your own positive and empowering beliefs, based on what resonates with you the most.
 
Now remember what I was saying earlier, that affirmations are not enough but there is a twist to my point. What matters when it comes to affirmations, is the timing that you are doing them. If you are doing them randomly during the day, only your conscious mind will be aware of them. But if you do them at specific moments of the day or during meditation when you brain is in theta or alpha waves, your subconscious mind will be able to be reprogramed with the new positive beliefs. Since your subconscious mind drives everything when it comes to your thoughts, emotions and actions, this is the correct way to do your affirmations!
 
The best timing to do affirmations is: 1) as soon as you wake up in the morning when you are still a little sleepy; 2) when you are almost falling asleep; 3) at the end of your meditation (if you meditate). If you are doing positive affirmations for at least 30 days at these peak moments of the day, you will transform your limiting beliefs and by doing that, your life will start transforming as well.
 
Your life is a mirror reflection of your beliefs about yourself, the world that surrounds you and of your sense of worth and deservedness. By transforming your mindset, you will transform your life!
 
Tool number 3: Now that you are more aware of the reasons you were feeling the way you were feeling and the limiting beliefs that were blocking you from manifesting your desired outcomes, you also realize that you are not a victim of the past anymore. That you are not a victim of your circumstances anymore and that today as an adult you can change your life because you don’t depend on anyone anymore like you used to depend on your caretakers as a child. You now have power over your life!
 
So now it’s time to change your sabotaging behaviors and patterns by again….talking to your subconscious mind. If you want permanent and real change, the key is always to do the work at the subconscious level, meaning that you have to reprogram your subconscious mind.
 
Only forcing a positive attitude and trying to have positive thoughts and doing affirmations when your brain is not in a state where in can be reprogramed (beta, gamma waves), you will not be able to change anything at the subconscious level. The subconscious mind is responsible of 90% of your thoughts, beliefs, emotions and actions so this is important for you to understand! If the work is not being done at the subconscious level that manipulates you like a puppet on strings, you will be a forever victim of your subconscious mind! But once you understand this important point, you are on your way to transforming your life!
 
So how do you transform your ingrained patterns that helped you to survive until now but sabotaged you out of getting what you really want and need? You talk to yourself like you would talk to your inner child in these peak moments I was talking about above.
Example:
I am now a lovable and worthy person. I can take my rightful place in this world. I can confidently ask for what I want and respect myself at all times. I love and accept myself fully and each day I am becoming a more authentic version of myself. I love myself.
 
Don’t use negative words or negative form when you are doing affirmations or when you are changing your patterns. Example: I don’t get rejected anymore. I don’t have debt anymore. Instead use: I am lovable and loved. I am creating more financial abundance.
 
By doing this loving self-talk to that inner child in you that feels like a victim of her circumstances, you reprogram your subconscious mind and by doing so, you will start to behave, to think and to act differently in a more empowered way! By stopping the sabotaging behaviors, you once had, you start attracting to yourself exactly what you want and need!
 
In conclusion, your present life and circumstances stem from your blocked emotions, your limiting beliefs and your ingrained patterns. Once you act on them at the subconscious level, your life will start mirroring back to you your new frequency and beliefs. You will start being a better version of yourself without forcing anything. You will still use your fun spiritual tools but they will only be the icing on the cake! So have that cake and eat it too! You can have abundance at all levels! If I managed to go from lack to abundance in my life and I was exactly where you are right now, that makes it possible for you as well! But do the work, you are worth it future Queen!
 
Bianca Piculeata
Mystical Queen Goddess
Counseling therapist, spiritual guide and Creator of the Transformation 360 method.