How to transform trauma into an abundant life!

How to transform traumatic experiences into an abundant life!

We all have trauma from our past, some more than others. In life, we have two choice when it comes to our traumas.

Either we ignore them and deal with the aftermath of repressed emotions, ingrained patterns and limiting beliefs or we face them with courage, knowing that a little bit of uncomfortable emotional release and writing your thoughts to identify your limiting beliefs, it’s worth the big rewards of releasing and transforming trauma.

So what are the benefits of releasing trauma? It’s so easy to get traumatized (each child lives a traumatic event in a different way and interprets it in a different way), but not that easy to identify it and know exactly the scars that it left in us and still has an impact on the way we think, we feel and act in your life therefore in the way we manifest things, situations or people in our life.

Either lack or abundance, we are creators. By healing our trauma, we go from manifesting lack and scarcity to manifesting abundance at all levels!

Releasing trauma means releasing stuck emotions from the body like anger, resentment, sadness, grief, jealousy, envy, etc. It means that the body doesn’t have to cope with holding on two those toxic and low vibrating emotions, therefore releasing the energy that you probably might lack. It could also mean that those stuck emotions won’t have to crystalize in your body, leaving you prone to certain diseases that the body develops in order to cope with the trauma your are holding in it.

By releasing your stuck emotions, you will get access to natural and more joyful emotions and feelings like more joy, hope, positivity, compassion and love. As I mentioned before, you will regain back the energy that you were spending on keeping your trauma emotions stuck in your body by not expressing and releasing them.

By releasing trapped emotions in your body, you get to next stage which is identifying your limiting beliefs. Limiting beliefs are beliefs that limit you from believing in the limitless abundance of life and in the limitless potential that you possess. These limiting beliefs keep you stuck in a robotic way of behaving because they drive your thoughts, emotions and resulting behaviors.

If you believe that you are not worthy of love, you will sabotage your love relationships. If you believe that money is scarce, you will subconsciously behave in a way in which you will always end up feeling that money is scarce. If you believe that the world is a dangerous place to live in, you will end up isolating yourself at home and get depressed and lonely. Each limiting beliefs eats away at your potential of living life at its fullest and stops you from having access to and expressing your full potential.

As a consequence of transforming your limiting beliefs, your patterns will start to change because once your change your beliefs, your thoughts change, your emotions change and your behaviors change. It’s a natural way of behaving, always stemming from your beliefs. If you think you are valuable, you will not let a man treat you in a way that makes you feel not valuable. If you think money is your best friend, you will always feel and be abundant, when it comes to money. If you think your opinion is valuable, you will not hesitate giving your opinion even if that could ruffle some feathers! There is no limit to what you can be, have and do when you remove the limits of your mindset!

When you have a negative and limiting belief, you will feel low vibrational emotions, you will lack motivation, you will have negative thoughts, resulting in sabotaging behaviors that will not bring you the results you wish. Versus when you have a positive and expansive belief, where you will feel joy and hope, therefore having positive and hopeful thoughts, which will result in behavior that will bring you the manifestation you wish for.

By working on your trauma and releasing the junk, ingrained patterns and limiting beliefs, your energetical frequency goes higher and higher with each trauma that you tackle and heal. By raising your energetical frequency, you rise up on the level of manifestation and you manifest better situations, better opportunities, better partners, more money, more self-love and self-confidence as well as more abundance at all levels! The secret of manifesting abundance is always frequency, the higher the frequency, the more powerful manifestor you become!

As you can see, healing trauma has numerous benefits which go from, gaining energy, being healthier, accessing your full potential and manifesting abundance, changing your behaviors to more empowering ones, raising your frequency, which in turn raises your power of manifestation and gives you access to a life of abundance!

I speak from my own transformation experience and how I went from having a trauma-induced lack mindset to an abundance mindset and my life completely changed and I have today abundance at all levels. You can too if you are serious about healing your trauma, what are you waiting for? Are you ready to do the work?

Mystical Queen Goddess
Spiritual and manifestation guide, creator of the Transformation 360 method and counselling therapist

How to get unstuck in life – for the spiritual wounded woman!

How to get unstuck in your life for the spiritual wounded woman!
 
If you feel stuck in your life right now and you have deep wounds from the past, I want you to know that you can get on the other side of the tunnel. You might not probably see the light at the end of the tunnel right now, but I promise you that that light exists.
 
It does require some work on your part and for you to know some tools and this is why I am writing this article.
 
I was once stuck in many areas of my life and I had to do the required work to get unstuck.
 
1stand most important thing that you need to understand is that you need to work at a deeper level than you might be used to. If you try affirmations here and there, crystals, candles or other spiritual tools but you don’t attend to the real blockages that you have, you will stay stuck. Yes, crystals are wonderful and potent as affirmations are but if your subconscious beliefs and your emotional blockages and ingrained patterns don’t get released and transformed, you will not change your overall frequency. You will stay in a low vibrational frequency that will attract to you more of that you don’t want, lack and unhappiness.
 
Wanting to use spiritual tools without doing the deep level work on yourself is like putting pink icing and flowers on a dry cake. The icing doesn’t change anything if the cake itself is not good. But when the cake itself is moist, not too sweet, creamy and delicious, the icing can be a very nice touch but won’t change the overall experience of the cake. So my point here is to work on the cake and the icing will only enhance the overall experience!
 
Now that I have made a point, let’s get back to the serious stuff. You got emotions trapped in your body coming from your past that you didn’t get to express and release. You got limiting beliefs that you bought in your head in order to survive and that today tax you from abundance and happiness. You got ingrained patterns that you act on without even thinking or realizing that they sabotage you.
 
So how do we transform and release the junk?
 
Tool number 1: you take the most cheap and ordinary journal or piece of paper (I have no money excuse won’t work here!) and you start writing. You address anything that makes you sad, disappointed, mad, envious, jealous, angry, rejected, etc….The purpose of this exercice is for you to start following the thread that will bring you to your limiting beliefs. Now it’s not the time to analyze or try to understand what you are jotting down on paper because it won’t make any sense to you and it doesn’t have to. These emotions might come from a very long time ago in your life so it’s normal to not understand them. So don’t try to!
 
What you are actually doing here, is taking responsibility for your life by starting your healing journey and it starts with releasing any thoughts and emotions that come up to the surface. Your rational mind will try to sabotage you so you have to push it away and let yourself express your emotions on paper. You don’t have to write a thesis, stop trying too hard, nobody will see what you are writhing down, you won’t get a mark on your paper! So let yourself loose and free and be gentle and loving to yourself. Pat yourself on the back because you are taking the first step on your healing journey! I am proud of you! And if you reading this article and are thinking that you don’t have time to write, get this: your life will stay the same and you’ll be stuck in a rut! Make a priority of doing the work that will bring you on the other side of the tunnel! When you get your priorities straight, guess what? Time magically appears! Besides, nobody can do the work but you!
 
Tool number 2: Once you have expressed your thoughts, feelings and emotions, go back and reread everything and start underlying your limiting beliefs because they will inevitably come up.
 
Example:
Today, I felt miserable and lonely. He never called me nor texted me. I waited the whole day for him to give me a sign and nothing….I am so unwantedI feel so unlovable….being alone feels so lonely….
 
So as you see above, your limiting beliefs might be: I am unwanted, I am unlovable, etc.
 
Not that you have identified your limiting beliefs, it’s time to transform and choose more empowering beliefs because you know that your beliefs attract your reality and heavy emotions keep your vibration low. Low vibration equals manifesting more of what you don’t want to manifest!
 
Now make a table with two columns in write the negative beliefs in the left column and the new positive beliefs in the right column. Example: I am lovable and loved. People find me irresistible. You create your own positive and empowering beliefs, based on what resonates with you the most.
 
Now remember what I was saying earlier, that affirmations are not enough but there is a twist to my point. What matters when it comes to affirmations, is the timing that you are doing them. If you are doing them randomly during the day, only your conscious mind will be aware of them. But if you do them at specific moments of the day or during meditation when you brain is in theta or alpha waves, your subconscious mind will be able to be reprogramed with the new positive beliefs. Since your subconscious mind drives everything when it comes to your thoughts, emotions and actions, this is the correct way to do your affirmations!
 
The best timing to do affirmations is: 1) as soon as you wake up in the morning when you are still a little sleepy; 2) when you are almost falling asleep; 3) at the end of your meditation (if you meditate). If you are doing positive affirmations for at least 30 days at these peak moments of the day, you will transform your limiting beliefs and by doing that, your life will start transforming as well.
 
Your life is a mirror reflection of your beliefs about yourself, the world that surrounds you and of your sense of worth and deservedness. By transforming your mindset, you will transform your life!
 
Tool number 3: Now that you are more aware of the reasons you were feeling the way you were feeling and the limiting beliefs that were blocking you from manifesting your desired outcomes, you also realize that you are not a victim of the past anymore. That you are not a victim of your circumstances anymore and that today as an adult you can change your life because you don’t depend on anyone anymore like you used to depend on your caretakers as a child. You now have power over your life!
 
So now it’s time to change your sabotaging behaviors and patterns by again….talking to your subconscious mind. If you want permanent and real change, the key is always to do the work at the subconscious level, meaning that you have to reprogram your subconscious mind.
 
Only forcing a positive attitude and trying to have positive thoughts and doing affirmations when your brain is not in a state where in can be reprogramed (beta, gamma waves), you will not be able to change anything at the subconscious level. The subconscious mind is responsible of 90% of your thoughts, beliefs, emotions and actions so this is important for you to understand! If the work is not being done at the subconscious level that manipulates you like a puppet on strings, you will be a forever victim of your subconscious mind! But once you understand this important point, you are on your way to transforming your life!
 
So how do you transform your ingrained patterns that helped you to survive until now but sabotaged you out of getting what you really want and need? You talk to yourself like you would talk to your inner child in these peak moments I was talking about above.
Example:
I am now a lovable and worthy person. I can take my rightful place in this world. I can confidently ask for what I want and respect myself at all times. I love and accept myself fully and each day I am becoming a more authentic version of myself. I love myself.
 
Don’t use negative words or negative form when you are doing affirmations or when you are changing your patterns. Example: I don’t get rejected anymore. I don’t have debt anymore. Instead use: I am lovable and loved. I am creating more financial abundance.
 
By doing this loving self-talk to that inner child in you that feels like a victim of her circumstances, you reprogram your subconscious mind and by doing so, you will start to behave, to think and to act differently in a more empowered way! By stopping the sabotaging behaviors, you once had, you start attracting to yourself exactly what you want and need!
 
In conclusion, your present life and circumstances stem from your blocked emotions, your limiting beliefs and your ingrained patterns. Once you act on them at the subconscious level, your life will start mirroring back to you your new frequency and beliefs. You will start being a better version of yourself without forcing anything. You will still use your fun spiritual tools but they will only be the icing on the cake! So have that cake and eat it too! You can have abundance at all levels! If I managed to go from lack to abundance in my life and I was exactly where you are right now, that makes it possible for you as well! But do the work, you are worth it future Queen!
 
Bianca Piculeata
Mystical Queen Goddess
Counseling therapist, spiritual guide and Creator of the Transformation 360 method.

Childhood neglect and its impact on your adult life

Today, I wanted to talk to you about invisible-to-the-eye childhood neglect and how you might still be affected by it without you even knowing it….
 
Neglect comes in many ways you know… It can be physical, emotional, affection-wise…
 
Neglect is not only related to what the eye can see but also to what the eye can’t see….
 
If you needed affection in your childhood but you were given crumbs, if you needed to be cuddled but you were pushed away, if you needed someone to listen to you but you were not heard or listened to, if you were emotional and you were judged for it, all of this is neglect! 
 
All of these types of neglect will have a big impact on your mindset because a child needs to make reason of why she is judged, rejected, critiqued or pushed away when it comes to her own needs. By mindset I mean the way you think about yourself and the worlds that surrounds you.
 
In order to survive, a child will often put the fault on herself because how can she feel safe if she realizes that her parents are limited in the way they are taking care of her? Not trying to fault the parents, they are often doing their best even if the best is sometimes not enough.
 
In some situations, how can a child survive realizing that her parents love her with conditions or that they are not fit to be parents?
 
By consequence, the child will buy beliefs about herself that she is not enough, that there is something wrong with her, that she is not important and that her feelings and needs are not important. Is that you?
 
She will eventually shut off parts of herself and only let people see what she thinks is acceptable.
 
She will internalize that she is safe and accepted only when she shows sides of herself that are acceptable and do not bear the risk of being judged.
 
Neglect will have an impact at various levels, here are some of them, do you relate?
 
1. Hiding parts of yourself to the world takes energy and you will often feel lethargic or have low energy.
 
2. You don’t feel free, you feel that you have to wear a mask. By wearing a mask, you feel safe and accepted.
 
3. You are not able to use your full potential in order to succeed in your life. You only have access to a few of the facets of your inner diamond and are not able to shine fully or use all of your talents and gifts. 
 
4. You haven’t learned to give importance to your needs. You have learned to put others first and you will often end up being resentful when others are not doing the same for you.
 
5. You haven’t learned to deal with your emotions, often resulting in you using food, alcohol, drugs or other addictive behaviors in order to numb and cope with your pain.
 
6. As a result of having shut off your feelings because there was no safe place for you to express them, you will have trapped emotions in your body. You can have anger, sadness, guilt, shame, resentment, humiliation, and all of these low vibrational emotions will keep your vibration low. A low vibration will attract to you situations and people that vibrate at the same level, which means that you will be stuck at attracting to you the same difficult experiences over and over again.
 
7. You feel trapped, stuck and frustrated that you can’t seem to attract to you what you really want because you keep experiencing the same situation over and over.
 
8. You will experience relationships where you will feel exactly like in your childhood: not important, not valued, nor loved unconditionally.
 
9. You will have limiting and negative beliefs about you that will keep you stuck in sabotaging behaviors and patterns that don’t bring you the happiness that you are desperately looking for.
 
10. You don’t feel worthy of receiving because you have learned that your needs are not important. Therefore, any attempt by others to give you something (be it a gift or love or attention) will be brushed off and rejected or replaced with you offering them something in return because you don’t feel worthy of receiving.
 
11. You have trouble being seen vulnerable, so you hide your true self behind a mask of being ok with almost everything. 
 
I am curious if this article speaks to you and if yes, you can let me know or ask me any questions! 
 
Mystical Queen Goddess
Counselling therapist, spiritual guide and creator of the Transformation 360 method.
Because your Inner Queen wants you to experience abundance at all levels!

Use your chakras to manifest abundance in your life!

Having cleared and balanced chakras will help you manifest abundance with more ease to create your ideal life.

Here is why and how to use them to manifest abundance!

Why is working on clearing and aligning your chakras important?
 
Here is why:
 
Root chakra (situated at the base of your spine – red) – when cleared and balanced, we feel safe and secure, that we belong and that we are grounded. We let go of worry, guilt and fear as well as dissatisfaction. Healing and harmony of the other chakras are much easier to achieve because this chakra is the basis of all the other chakras. For me personally, having a minimum amount in my bank account and heaving a regular income makes me feel safe and grounded and helps me to feel safe and secure.
 
Sacral chakra (situated below the navel – orange) – when cleared and balanced, we experience more creativity, physical pleasure, emotional sense of abundance and joy. We regulate our emotions more easily. We don’t feel empty anymore because we are connected to our feelings and emotions. It’s easier to take decisions because by regulating our emotions, we see more clearly. We will feel more gratitude, peace and satisfaction and have a more positive mental state of mind. For me personally, by healing my emotional wounds and learning to regulate my emotions, I became more peaceful, intuitive, abundant and content.
 
Solar plexus chakra (situated above the navel – yellow) – when cleared and balanced, our self-esteem increases and we feel more empowered. Our vitality, drive, self-worth and self-respect increase as well. We trust ourselves more as well as others and we are less critical of ourselves and others. We have more control over our emotions and become more patient. Personally, this is the one chakra I struggled with the most and I had to do a lot of mindset work to take my power back and value and respect myself.
 
Heart chakra (situated in the center of our chest – green) – when cleared and balanced, we let go of guilt, grief, resentment and hurt or other heavier emotions more easily. This chakra is the most important of them all because it is the place that connects all the other chakras, connecting our mental, physical, spiritual and emotional aspects. When this chakra is healthy and balanced, all the other chakras are impacted in a positive way. We have a greater ability of compassion, empathy, unconditional love, self-acceptance and self-love. Working on this chakra will be the most beneficial for a general wellbeing and equilibrium.
 
Throat chakra (situated in the middle of our throat – blue) – when cleared and balanced, you will be able to speak your truth as well as to listen with more ease, not worry about other people’s opinion, critique or judgement. Your throat chakra along with taking action is a powerful manifestation tool because it helps you to speak your desires out into the universe and make them materialized. We are also more able to speak up and stand for ourselves and our values and to verbalize our needs and wants with confidence. I personally took a lot of time to open up my throat chakra because I was very afraid of speaking up and being ridiculed or critiqued especially when it came to my spirituality. I had to accept myself in full to be able to communicate in an authentic and truthful way and get out of my spiritual closet.
 
Third eye chakra (situated in the middle of your eyes at the level of your eyebrows – indigo) – when cleared and balanced, it allows you to be more intuitive and trusting of your gut feeling and inner nudges. You are more able to pick up bad energy in order to protect yourself. You feel less worried because you know that you can rely on your intuition and gain insight into your situation. Personally, the more I healed my emotional wounds and opened my heart, the more intuitive I became.
 
The crown chakra (situated at the top of your head – purple – when cleared and balanced, it allows you to feel connected to all that is (the whole universe) as well as be in contact with your higher self. To make the difference between your ego and your heart and being able to understand principles that go beyond your ego mind. We trust more in the universe, therefore feeling protected, guided and more peaceful. We will become less fearful and selfish, trust more in our own morals and values. We will feel more connected to our life mission and believe in a higher power. Feel less like a victim for what goes wrong in our life (or perceived as wrong), and more able to understand that everything happens for a reason and in divine order.
 
By balancing each chakra and having a balanced energetical flow between each of them from root to crown and crown to root, it will benefit and harmonize all of our mental, physical, spiritual and emotional aspects and will help us to become our best version of ourselves as well as manifesting all of our wishes and desires in the following way:
 
Crown chakra – decide and set your intention for what you wish to manifest
 
Third eye chakra – visualize your dream into reality
 
Throat chakra – speak your intention into reality to help it take form in the energetical field until we manifest it in the 3d field
 
Heart chakra – free emotional blockages to raise vibration, letting the universe and others help you to reach your goal
 
Solar plexus chakra – feeling worthy, valuable and determined to put in the necessary efforts to manifest your desire, not letting obstacles stop you from reaching your goal
 
Sacral chakra – use your creativity to overcome any obstacle put in your way and use your emotions to fuel your manifestation
 
Root chakra – being committed to manifest your desire until that manifestation becomes your reality, end of each manifestation process
 
In conclusion, each of your chakras is powerful and if you clear and balance it and use it in your manifestation process, you will harness the power of each one of them to create your ideal life and become your best version.
 

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Mystical Queen Goddess
Counselling therapist, spiritual guide and creator of the Transformation 360 method.
Because your Inner Queen wants you to experience abundance at all levels!