Why procrastination is a wonderful thing!

Why procrastinating is a wonderful thing🤯🙀!
Behind procrastination, there are hidden reasons that you don’t see. There is a message behind procrastination that you soul or subconscious mind is trying to communicate to you.

Procrastination is either:

1) telling you that you force yourself to accomplish your goal in a way that doesn’t fit your personality💗. Example: you’re trying to lose weight with an activity that only brings you pain, body aches and no pleasure. Try to find an activity that brings you the same results but all the while, brings you pleasure and fun. You’ll be much more consistent and you’ll look forward to doing that activity, and weight loss will follow. This goes against society that pushes you to do things even if you dread doing them. It pushes you to use your masculine energy of PUSH PUSH PUSH mentality, while neglecting your feminine energy. But your feminine energy wants you to find joy and pleasure while getting you to accomplish your goals🪄💛!

2. telling you that you have subconscious fears that need to come up to the surface. We all want to accomplish things in life but when we have subconscious fears, will will do everything to sabotage ourselves out of accomplishing them! Solution: journal until you get in touch with your fears. Identify them and find solutions to alleviate your fears. Example: I am fearful if I lose weight, I will get too much attention from men👀. Solution to your fear: ask yourself, is it a true fear or is this just my ego trying to protecting me from the belief that I don’t deserve attention or that it’s not safe for me to be seen? Make a new belief: I am worthy of being seen and It is safe for me to be seen. Another example: the fear of not being able to accomplish the task. Solution: ask yourself: what is the 1st task🧩 that I can do today that is the easiest? Do only that small step. Tomorrow or on a different day, do the next little step. This way, you’ll end up finalizing the task even if you broke it in small little steps which is less terrorizing…


3. telling us we don’t have the right focus🎯. We are all over the place. We aren’t organized, we don’t have enough energy because we give it all away to things and people that don’t bring us nothing in return. It’s a sign that we have to centralize our energy and focus! Make a list on your phone📱 in your notes section or on a piece of paper that you can cross off, once accomplished. Put things in your calendar or find the way to organize yourself that speaks to you and that you know you’ll actually consult during your week. Your brain will want to do these things (search of dopamine🧠). Cut the people in your life that take all your energy or put healthy boundaries and put yourself first. If you fear losing them or their affection know that you’ll be winning your self-respect and energy back…which is huge!

To conclude, I want you to know that I was the Queen👑 of sabotage and procrastination. The tools I gave you above are a result of my own realizations that helped me and still help me in my day to day life! If was able to stop procrastinating, you can too!

Procrastination is a wonderful thing because it forces you to look within and see what your subconscious mind wants you to see in order to become a better version of yourself. It also shows you how you sabotage yourself out of success…when you don’t put boundaries and you are all over the place. Lastly, it pushes you to respect your unique self💃 and take into account all of your needs…

Talk soon beautiful soul! 

5 ways to shift from Cinderella to Queen frequency!

5 ways to shift from Cindarela to Queen frequency!

Here are some 5 tips for the Cindarelas of this world, that were born in lack at all levels but want to manifest more love, more money and more happiness in their life !

1. LOVE – If you are in a relationship where you feel you aren’t treated the way you want to be treated, ask your inner Queen: How would you think and act in my place? Than act exactly like her, ignoring your Cindarela mindset that keeps you stuck in unfulfilling love relationships. Your Cindarela version will try to outsmart your Queen’s wisdom, so stay aware of any mischievous thoughts that could run through your mind, that make you feel nor worthy of having a happy and loving relationship! Your Cindarela mindset will push you to act from a position of feeling not worthy, powerless, not important vs your Queen mindset that will give you the courage to ask for what you deserve: love, affection and being valued and respected! Your Cindarela version will tell you that you don’t deserve more than that cheating and lying partner you have while your Queen version will tell you to run, heal & learn to love yourself and then to manifest your divine partner! 

2. MONEY – If you want to hocus pocus more money in your life, reevaluate your mindset around the energy of money! Would a Queen be afraid of making more money?

Would a Queen block money from entering into her life because rich people are selfish with money?

Would a Queen cling on to her money because she’s afraid there isn’t more where it came from?

Would a Queen judge money and put all kinds of negative labels on money? 

Queen frequency doesn’t align with a low vibrational money mindset. A Queen loves money and is very well aware that money can positively impact her life and the life of the people she cares about! A Queen makes bffs with money! 

She is a benevolent queen and she treats people in her life accordingly and doesn’t give her power away when it comes to money, because she knows it’s unfair the money gets a bad rep because of some people’s true colors…as money reveals more of whom you are…a beautiful or tarnished soul…

By improving your mindset around money, you will have the motivation you need to ask for that raise, start that side husstle, have new ideas around making money or simply manifest more money in your life! 

3.  ENERGY –  If you don’t know how to put “respect me” boundaries, it is time for you to consult your Royal wisdom and act from the place of the queen of your own kingdom! A Queen is not bothered by what others think of her, not concerned by others’ opinions of her, not ruffled by other’s reactions to her actions or words! A Queen knows her inner diamond value and that she’s worthy of what she desires. When you tap into that Queen frequency, you will be able to say no to people, not be available for toxicity and put  yourself first! You’ll stop giving your time & energy away because you’ll put value on them! 

4.   FREQUENCY – What’s the biggest difference between Cindarela and Queen vibes? Cindarela is afraid of healing because she won’t be able to combat her imaginary emotional monster! The Queen in you is fierce and courageous and knows that she can conquer anything! 

So take your journal out or your painting brushes out express those stuck emotions that are dying to come out of the lurky shadows. You’ll find that behind these emotions, lie the biggest lies that need to come to the surface for you to reclaim your Queenly throne! These lies are: that you are not worthy, not enough, not valuable…so ripping out these bad weeds and replacing them with beautiful and colorful new flowers that tell the new story: that you are indeed enough, you were always valuable, worthy and lovable! But without facing your shadows, no light can come up to the surface! 

5. CLARITY – It’s important to end the attachment to your inner Cindarela. If you are addicted to the struggle, to the victim story, to the blaming and to not taking responsibility for your own life, it’s time for you to take your power back! Holding on to your Cindarela identity will bring you more of what you have right now, more lack and more struggle! You can’t continue living from a lack and struggle mentality and expect different results!  You can thank your Cindarela version for having helped you to survive until now and put your diamond tiara on! More practically said, act from the place of a Queen in every situation, be it love, money, relationships, boundaries, energy, frequency and your career or life mission, etc. Ask her for advice and act upon her high frequency guidance! 

Because every spiritual deeply wounded Cindarela of this world deserves abundance at all levels ! 

Bianca aka Mystical Queen Goddess!

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Do you have one of these common negative money beliefs?

Do you have these negative money beliefs?

Today, I will talk to you about the 10 most common money beliefs that might wreak havoc in your financials…I encourage you to challenge these limiting beliefs that might be in your subconscious mind without you even being aware of them…

When I was younger, I use to empty my bank account as soon as the pay would come in because I had this belief that there was never enough money. Subconsciously, I was creating the same pattern of not having enough money that came from my childhood. There were often fights around money in my family and moments where our fridge would be almost empty so that scarcity mindset around money was imprinted at a young age in my mind. I had to uncover and destroy the negative beliefs I had around money and plant new positive beliefs with the method I created “Transformation 360” but you can program your mind as soon as you wake up and just before falling asleep by repeating new positive money beliefs.

So here are the most common negative money beliefs:

1. More money, more problems

More money will not create more problems unless you don’t prepare yourself to deal with bigger amounts of money coming into your life. If you are a entrepreneur working from home for example, and you don’t put money away to pay your taxes, than yes, you could run into money problems. But today, you have all the information you need on Internet or from books to learn how to better manage your money as an entrepreneur. So if you earn more money and you are diligent towards learning how to deal with bigger amounts of money, it actually can help you to help others more or to have the lifestyle you’ve been wanting to have.

2. Money is the source of all evil

Money is not evil, people are evil so we have to separate the two because it’s not fair that money is getting a bad reputation because there are some people in the world that are pure evil. What about you that has a beautiful soul and only have good intentions around money? Why punish yourself and deprive yourself of the benefits that more money could bring into your life?

3. Money will make me a bad person

Money will not make you a bad person but it will show whom you truly are. When people are bad and evil, money will just reveal whom they truly are at their core. But you aren’t bad nor evil, so why should you rob yourself out of having more money in your life? You can do plenty of good things with money: get more education, help your family or causes close to your heart, fix things around your home, offer a better life to your children, etc. There are many positive ways in which you can deal with your money.

4. If I ignore my money situation, my money problems will go away

If you hide your head into the sand, your money situation will get worse. I encourage you to check your bank account daily to see what comes in and what goes out. The more familiar you get with your spending habits, the more you’ll be able to correct anything that needs to be corrected. There are so many scams going around these days trying to lure you into getting your credit card information that you have to pay attention each day with what happens to your bank account. A great tip I can give is to never use the same password for more than one app or bank account, as when you get robbed of your password, the scammers will try the same password with all other apps you might use like Paypal for example.

I got scammed a few weeks ago and they almost emptied my bank account in a few days, it really traumatized me, I was lucky enough that I found out in due time in order to repair what was done. Fortunately, I got reimbursed every penny I had lost but this is not guaranteed so be very mindful where you click on a link sent from text messages or emails, as today’s scammers are true professionals into making you believe your are clicking on a safe link!

5. Wanting more money would be selfish of me

Wanting more money is to want to have a better life because we have came into this earth plane to live in abundance not lack. If you would have more money you could be more generous with other people, so how is that selfish? How is that selfish of offering the best life to yourself and to the people you love and care about? Don’t you see that this is just society’s way of trying to keep you small and in lack? Especially when you have worked for your money, you are deserving and worthy of having more money!

I am personally against (personal opinion) of wanting to manifest money with the lotto, nothing wrong with that, but I want you to learn to manifest money by doing what you love. How much fulfilment would you have earning money by expressing your talents and gifts into this world?

6. Money creates problems in relationships

Money doesn’t create problems but negative beliefs around money create problems in relationships as well as not accepting the other views of people around money whom treat money in a different way than you. Some people are very careful with money and like to spend the least possible and others are very easygoing with money and spend money often. If two partners with different views on managing their money get together, this can bring conflicts if there is not respect of the other’s way of dealing with his/her money in the relationship.
Working on your money beliefs will help you remove the stress you have when it comes to money and have a better and more relaxed attitude around money as well!

7. I can’t bring up the topic of money in my relationship

If you are afraid of talking about money with your partner, you will end up frustrated and resentful. Even if a discussion around money can bring conflict, it’s better to pick a fight but work diligently on arriving at an understanding so that both partners feel understood and heard. How can each of you make a compromise to arrive at an understanding that is more acceptable for each one of you?

8. Money is dirty

Money is not dirty, money is used for dirty deeds. Money is a neutral tool, simply energy. What you do with it determines the outcome of how money will be used: for good or for bad. You can do good with money as you can do bad deeds, it’s all in your free will. I know beautiful soul that you would only do good things with money so stop putting this negative label on money so that you get your freedom back when it comes to the way you view money in your life.

Don’t put other people’s negative labels on money, bring back the innocence of the neutral energy that represents money!

9. I should not focus on money, because it’s not spiritual

How is it spiritual to want to help someone financially but not being able to? How is it spiritual that you want to pay for your child’s education but you are not able to? How is it spiritual that you want to have a more comfortable life but you are not able to? How spiritual is that you want to feel safe and secure when it comes to you money but you end up stressing over your money situation?

Money is a tool to help you survive and thrive on this 3D earth plane. You are not living in a spiritual plane where money is not necessary so give money its power back and let it improve your life!

10. I need a man to take care of me financially

You don’t need a man to take care of you because you have your full bodily functions and you have a brain. You are capable of sustaining yourself and you are a powerful manifestor! Letting a man take care of you is like telling him in a indirect way that you are less than him (unless of course you have kids and you decide to be a stay home mom – completely different scenario). Take your power back beautiful future queen and be independent, you were not created to depend on a man!

If there is an understanding between a man and woman to support her while she’s trying to have a business endeavor for herself, that is totally healthy but a woman that thinks she needs a man to supports her while she does nothing with her life, it’s a total loss of talent, gifts and abilities that a women possesses!

To conclude, the better relationship you have with money, the better and healthy your bank account will be, so start working on that relationship towards money if you want money to take care of you! Treat money like it is your best friend and soon money will start treating you likewise! Let today be the day when you decide that money will become your best friend so that it supports you in the future!

Bianca aka Mystical Queen Goddess

Because every deeply wounded woman deserves abundance at all levels!

How to get in touch with your authentic self and regain your full self back

How to get in touch with your authentic self and regain your full self back
You have probably lost contact with facets of yourself along your life. Why does that happen?
In starts in our childhood when we don’t feel accepted fully for whom we truly are and our need to be loved and appreciated pushes us to lower the volume on the characteristics that we have learned to not love about ourselves and push up the volume on characteristics of ourselves that get noticed or that help us get the love and attention we so crave.
With time, we forget that we are not dependent anymore on other people’s love and appreciation and we stay the same version that we have learned to fabricate and we wear a mask that we don’t recognize as a mask anymore…we end up believing that our mask represents whom we truly are. We perceive ourselves to be that fake version of ourselves that we have created out of a need for survival.
I am talking from experience. My mask was well fixed and I had a very misled perception of myself. I had to peel off all the layers of my fake self to recover my full authentic self. This is how I started feeling more at peace, more complete, less confused and empty, more confident and happy.
But I believe you don’t need to wear your mask anymore because you don’t need anybody’s approval anymore. Today, you are free to be fully yourself, the sensitive, loud, communicative, creative, crazy, funny, fun-loving, living life at its fullest, or what that might mean for you!
So how do you recuperate those parts of you that you have learned to hide and be ashamed of? Well it starts with digging up the dirt! Yes, dirt! Your beautiful facets that are waiting for you to uncover them are pushed down by false beliefs and stuck emotions that you could not express when you learned to hide your authentic self.
Get out your journal and think about the situations that you experience in your relationships and that are not satisfactory to you. Write your emotions, don’t judge what is coming up, just express to release, feel whatever emotions is coming up for you. Be a present mother figure for your inner child that wishes to express herself without being humiliated, judged, ridiculed, not being given the right to be whom she is or abused verbally or physically. Just in this short time that you are journaling, be a loving authority figure for that little girl in you that needs your love and approval.
There might be shame, anger, resentment, fear and lots of sadness that are piled on your lost facets of your inner diamond. And between those layers of emotions, there are negative beliefs like:
I am not enough
I am weird
Whom I am is not acceptable
I am not smart enough
I am not what others want me to be
I have to be someone else to be accepted and loved
This non appetizing cake of emotions and beliefs needs to be consumed in order for you to get to the bottom of things and the biggest gift lies in you recuperating that parts of yourself that scream to be heard…to be loved….to be accepted…to be reunited with you….would you let it ?
The magic of letting everything come up to the light is that these forgotten parts of yourself will come back to life naturally because you had made the way for them to be released and freed. That is the magic of healing!
Right now, your journal is your best friend, use it and it will bring you back your most authentic self if you do the required work. What do you have to lose? You only have to win lost parts of yourself!
With love
Bianca (Mystical Queen Goddess)
Because every deeply wounded spiritual woman deserves abundance at all levels!

The myths and lies on emotions

You should be ashamed of your emotions…
You should not show your emotions…
You should hide how you feel and make others believe you are fine…
You should control your emotions…
You are too much, stop being so intense…
You are too sensitive, stop crying!
No wonder, you have learned to stuff down your emotions with food or alcohol, to watch TV (Netflix anyone?) to numb yourself, to feel disconnected from yourself, to feel wrong for being sensitive, for not knowing how to deal with your emotional triggers when someone says something or does something to you that triggers you and your emotional wounds…
You were created to have emotions…
Emotions are perfectly normal, not having emotions is not…
You had parents that did not know how to comfort you or listen to you when you were emotional…
You have not learned to deal with your emotions therefore you fall into the trap of bad habits to numb your emotions…
Your anxiety is just a sign that blocked emotions need to come up to the surface and be released…
You might feel completely disconnected from yourself…because when you cut yourself from feeling, you cut yourself from your essence, whom you are…
Emotions are the pathway to your true self because they have a message and you are not listening to that message….therefore not being true to yourself
The validation you need from others is just a sign that you are completely disconnected from your own higher self…whom always accepts you and values you
We live in a society where women are judged for being emotional especially empaths and lightworkers
Give yourself the right to feel whatever emotions are there for you…
Accept that you might be more sensitive that the majority of women…because you have an empathic soul…
Accept that it is painful to feel after all these years of numbing yourself…one day at a time makes it easier…practice staying aware of your feelings even if it’s a few seconds per day….increase the time when you feel ready to go to the next level!
Find ways to express yourself either being painting, journaling, especially if you are introverted (ask for the violet flame of Master St-Germain (a purple, pink and violet flame) to envelop you and comfort you and ease the intensity of your emotions but still do the work of expressing and releasing your emotions)…
Give yourself the right to be yourself and be vulnerable towards the people that are close to you and that you trust…since being vulnerable helps you build a strong intimate connection with your partner or future partner…
Feeling your emotions allows you to feel your boundaries and say no…and so much more benefits:
…it allows you to feel what you truly want and ask for it…
…it allows you to tap into your intuition easier because by releasing emotions you clear the channel to have a more clear intuition…
…it allows you to get to know yourself more…
…it allows you to release emotional blockages that keep your vibration low…and therefore attract situations and people to you that you don’t want…
…it allows you to avoid feeling sick because emotions that are stuck in your physical body can become physical ailments later on in your life…
…it allows you to get clear on your negative beliefs and choose new and more empowering ones…
…it allows you to release your emotional wounds from your childhood in your to stop manifesting the same pattern over and over again….it gets you out of the loop of living the same frustrations over and over…
Basically, emotions are a treasure if you allow yourself to feel your uncomfortable emotions, but this treasure is really worth it!
Without accepting to feel and release your emotions, you will feel like an alien in your own body because you will feel empty. That emptiness is not feeling what wants to come up and tell you a message…
Are you ready to listen and discover the jewels of your inner treasure?
Ask me any questions beautiful soul, it will be my great pleasure to guide you…
Bianca aka Mystical Queen Goddess

Do you struggle with negativity in your head?

Beautiful soul,
If you struggle with negativity, it’s not your fault…
If you had a childhood where most of the things you heard were :
– negativity
– criticism
– being put down
– being ridiculed
– being compared
– being humiliated
Guess what happens with time?
The voices of your parents or caretakers become your own!
You lose contact with your higher self…and your negative voices take control of your mind!
in short….
You end up playing and dancing to the same playlist in your head….because that’s the only song that you have danced to….the negative, destructive, sabotaging playlist songs…
And then you manifest events and people that mirror your thoughts….
You have people abusing you, taking advantage of you, not respecting you, saying mean things to you, putting you down or criticizing you…
But they are only reflecting back your inner dialogue…remember that manifestation is a mirror of your vibration!
The thoughts you put out in the universe come back to you so if you want to change what the universe sends you as experiences, you have to change your thoughts!
The 5 steps to change the negative playlist and take back control of the conversation that takes place in your brain is:
1. Become aware of the thoughts your are recycling over and over again in your head…
2. Decide to switch to a new playlist focused on more positive and encouraging things you say to yourself….replace : I am not beautiful with something like: God created me beautiful enough…; I am not smart with something like: I am smart enough
If the new thought seems too farfetched, choose one that seems more believable to your brain and with time, you can bring it to the next level: I am very beautiful and smart!
3. Repeat, repeat, repeat. the more you practice switching from negative to more positive thoughts, the easier it gets to switch the playlist…
4. Repeat the same positive affirmations as soon as you wake up and just before falling asleep if you want TO SPEED UP THE PROCESS!
5. Practice this awareness and switching exercise each time you remember and let me know how it goes for you, I want to know! Does it help you? Don’t be shy beautiful soul, I am here to guide you!
Happy switching! 😍🙌
By the way, I have created a new FB group: “Healing for the deeply wounded spiritual women”.
If you recognize yourself, I invite you to join this non-judgmental, welcoming and loving group…I will add FB lives, posts, quotes to help you heal, raise your vibration, change your mindset, manifest…etc. but more focused on the basis of manifestation: DEEP HEALING!
Bianca aka Mystical Queen Goddess
Because every deeply wounded woman deserves abundance at all levels!

How to make money your bestie!

How to make money your bestie…
Let’s be honest…you started your relationship with money on the wrong foot…
Maybe in your home, when you were a child, money didn’t want to be your friend, money visited your family rarely, and even created fights in your home…because of the lack of presence of money…
So, you learned to not trust money, to always feel the lack of it, to want it and in the same time to reject it…you did not want to become like those people whom were flaunting their riches and were treating others badly….because of the stories you were told around money….
There was this confusion within you….a part of you felt that you needed more money but in the same time you were conflicted with this ideas that money is bad, money makes people mean and greedy, you can not have too much money, only the privileged people are worthy to have lot of money…money is scarce…etc.
Because of this conflict within you….you learned to just be open to receive enough to just survive and if you had a bit more, you had to spent it because the belief that there is never enough money was lingering in your subconscious mind….
And the secret is that your subconscious mind (negative beliefs around money) is driving your emotions, your thoughts and actions around money…therefore your beliefs were and are still manipulating you like a puppet on strings…
And since money is thriving in a healthy relationship like people are thriving in a healthy relationship….
Money was afraid to get closer to you….because you were afraid of it….
So how do you make money come more freely towards you….how do you make money become your best friend….
You release (full moon ritual or journaling or painting) any bad thoughts and beliefs you have around money….that could be coming from your past, from experiences you had around money….you write down and you release and by doing that….your frequency around money transforms and gets higher…
Higher frequency equals better manifestation power…
Money does not discriminate…money comes where it is welcomed and loved….money loves you back when you love it without judgment and prejudice…
Because money is innocent….money is energy…money is an exchange of energy between people and companies….money just is….
People corrupt money…people are putting their bad vibes and bad intentioned will on money….
Money just is….people are the ones spreading a bad rap around money…
It is not fair to deprive yourself of the freedom that money gives you because people make bad choices around money…
It is not fair to deprive yourself of the abundance that money can offer you because some people are evil people….
You are not evil…you are not selfish…you do not have bad intentions…you are not greedy….
You are generous and have a good heart….you are generous and have good intentions….you are a good-hearted spiritual woman
You have the birth right of abundance in your life….you are worthy of creating, receiving, saving, investing money and take advantage of the power and energy of money in your life…
Do not let society, your parents, your caretakers, mainstream media influence you anymore when it comes to your relationships with money and the truth around money…
Take your freedom back and your birth right and feel worthy of healing your relationship with money now….do the work and take responsibility of improving your relationship with money…
Educate yourself and learn about how to make more money….follow your intuition and your passions to create more money…learn, read and read some more…education is power!
Be open to find and receive money and be blessed….feel worthy of more money in your life…
Money doesn’t own you…you own money….money is not your master….you are the master of money when you know how to influence money and love money because of the opportunities and freedom it can provide you with….money will flow more freely towards you!
What blocks you? What are your limiting beliefs? Are they true or are they limiting you and impeding you from becoming more open to receive it and feeling worthy of more money in your life?
If you start today….you never know where your relationship with money will be in a few months, years….start today and allow time to heal your relationship with money…
Your future-self version will thank you!
When you wake up tomorrow, as soon as you wake up say the following in your head:
I love money and money loves me back
I am taking my power back and improving my relationship with money
Money is simply energy therefore I welcome it into my life
I am worthy of money
I earn and keep money easily in my life
Money loves to bless me…
Money is my best friend and always there when I need it
Money is my best friend
Also during the day, ask yourself empowering questions and stop saying disempowering things around money :
How can I allow more money in my life ?
What is the fastest and easiest way to make more money?
What would be a miraculous situation to welcome more money into my life?
How can I learn more about how to save, earn, invest money so that my life becomes abundant and prosperous?
Keep a high vibe around money and you’ll soon see how money will be more present in your life because YOU LET IT! Let money become your best friend! You have the power over this relationship!
Happy money making beautiful spiritual Queen!
Because every spiritual woman deserves money flowing into her life!
Let me know below what blocks money from coming more abundantly into your life!
Mystical Queen Goddess

The 5 emotional wounds, abandonment, rejection, humiliation, betrayal and injustice

 The 5 emotional wounds– Abandonment, Rejection, Humiliation, Betrayal and Injustice
In this article, I am going to speak to you about the 5 most common emotional wounds to help you identify if you have them and to help you better know and understand yourself as well as how to heal yourself. Just by identifying the emotional wounds that have impacted you, will help empower you and you’ll be able to understand and accept yourself more.
Every emotional wound can leave painful feelings, ingrained patterns and limiting beliefs but there is also a gift to uncover if you take the time to heal and transform them. In this article, I will go over them in order to show you that if you are serious about healing your emotional trauma, you will be winning on the other side. There are beautiful gifts that await for you on the other side of recovery.
It’s not always what happens that is the reason behind emotional wounds. Most often, because of the vulnerability, the personality and sensibility of a child, it’s how the child interpreted the event that will have the ultimate impact on her. The same event can happen to two children and the impact will be completely different. The more sensitive child you were, the more certain events and behaviors of your primary caretakers will have an impact on you.
1. The abandonment emotional wound
There doesn’t have to be real abandonment in order for a child to feel abandoned. Children are very sensitive and they can easily feel abandoned. It can be your mother that promised you something and she didn’t keep her promise, it can be your father not showing up at your birthday, it can be the lack of emotional support. It can also be real abandonment, like a mother abandoning her child or the father disappearing by leaving his wife and children. It doesn’t really matter how the child in you felt abandoned, what really matters is how you, as an adult, are coping with your abandonment issues.
You can very easily be triggered and feel abandoned. Example: you set up an appointment with your boyfriend and he arrives 30 minutes late without warning you. You wait and you wait and you get so anxious and feel so many painful emotions but you don’t know what to do. You might feel unsafe, not important, not valuable et so on….You are angry and you want to cry and when you finally meet with him, you are so angry and you scold him. You might even feel rage and not want to talk with him anymore. What we notice here, is that the trigger is rather small in comparison with the emotions that are felt and this is a warning that healing is needed here. It doesn’t excuse the behavior of your boyfriend but rather shows the difference between the trigger and the emotional pain that is felt.
If you don’t tackle this emotional pain, each time there will be a trigger, you will feel the same pain over and over. You will try to cope with it by trying to change your partner or even control him but because you take power over someone else instead of trying to change yourself, the universe will send you the same trigger over and over until you understand that you hold the power over your healing and over your life. You will attract the same situations over and over until you have had enough and you release your past trauma related to abandonment.
How to do you heal from abandonment issues? After an event where you have felt abandoned, you go home and you get your journal out. You write down absolutely everything that you feel, you let yourself scream and cry, you don’t judge or rationalize what comes out. You do this until there is nothing left and you have found your limiting (negative) beliefs. Underneath every emotional wound, there are often limiting beliefs. You can easily transform your limiting beliefs by affirming new positive beliefs as soon as you wake up or just before falling asleep. You can apply this exercise for every emotional wound that I talk about in this article. I give you the exact 3 steps of healing your trauma in the video at the end of this article.
Another way to heal your abandonment wound is to practice self-care and to keep yourself busy when you feel alone and lonely. Do your favorite activities, put yourself first, practice a new hobby, do what brings you the most joy, create, learn, read, write, anything that fuels your soul. By putting yourself first, you will create that sense of security and importance that you so need to heal yourself.
The positive aspect of healing your abandonment emotional wound is that you learn to prioritize yourself, to take care of yourself, to love yourself and to take care of your own needs. When you are at this stage of loving yourself and putting yourself first, you will not be triggered anymore and in a situation where your partner is late, you might even feel just a bit disappointed and even make the decision to not wait after him. You will feel strong and empowered and make the best decision in every situation and not feel that you depend on someone’s else treatment because you always have your back.
Also ask yourself: where in your life are you abandoning yourself? Where do you put others first? Where do you choose partners that abuse you in the name of love? Where do you cling onto other people because you can’t be alone? We often abandon ourselves and expect others to be there for us when we are not loving and putting ourselves first.
On the spiritual side, the abandonment wound teaches you that you are the child of God. Even if everyone abandons you, you are never abandoned by God whom loves you. When you connect with the love of God, you will feel an unconditional love that will heal you and fill you up.
2. The rejection emotional wound
The rejection emotional wound stems from being rejected over and over in your childhood years. It hurts you so much that you’ll eventually learn to avoid rejection and you’ll reject yourself before anyone can reject you. You become fearful, you walk on egg shells and you calculate every little gesture that could mean you could get rejected and hurt.
By learning to avoid people in order to not get rejected, you don’t get to create new relationships and you might even find yourself isolated, sad and lonely. You need to realize that not all people reject you and if you have had parents that didn’t know how to love you but rejected you, is not your fault. You need to stop rejecting yourself because you don’t depend on anybody anymore. When you stop rejecting yourself, you don’t really care anymore because the worst pain doesn’t come from being rejected but from rejecting yourself. A child will always put the fault on her in order to survive, therefore learn that there is something wrong in her that makes people reject her.
The truth is that there is nothing wrong with you and you were always perfectly imperfect, valuable and enough.
Getting back in the zone of going towards people and start building new relationships is vital to your happiness. Start testing one day at a time and you’ll see that the majority of people will not reject you so that you train your brain to take the risk of going towards new people.
You can do the same healing exercise referenced above for the abandonment emotional wound in order to release any trapped emotions in your body and so that you transform any limiting belief that you might have because of your rejection wound. By doing that, you won’t have to force yourself to go towards people, you’ll be more natural because you would have removed all emotional and mental blockages by doing the healing work.
The positive side of healing the rejection wound is that you learn to accept yourself fully and to fully embrace whom you are no matter if people like you or not. Knowing that you always accept yourself no matter what, will make you feel more empowered and courageous when you interact with other people therefore giving you the chance of enriching your social life.
Ask yourself, where am I rejecting myself? Where do I give in to the fear of being rejected instead of putting my needs first and take that risk of being rejected? Where do I reject myself because of the fear of being rejected by others?
On the spiritual side, the rejection wound teaches you that you are never alone. Your guides and angels always protect you and have an eye on you, therefore you are never rejected and alone. Loneliness is only an illusion created by the 3D world. In the spiritual world, you are always loved, guided and protected.
3. The humiliation emotional wound
Humiliation can stem from being ridiculed, laughed at, judged or critiqued in your childhood years or it can happen when you are humiliated in front of more than one person. Humiliation can be a very painful emotional wound as well. You would feel shame and ridicule and you will learn to protect yourself by hiding whom you truly are, by wearing a mask to hide your true self. You will learn to avoid being center stage because you will learn to avoid humiliation at all costs. You will avoid showing your true self because you deeply believe that whom you are is shameful and should be hidden.
How do we heal from the humiliation wound? First, we start to accept that it’s ok to do mistakes, it’s ok to not be perfect, it’s ok to be different and unique, it’s ok to not have the perfect body. We should not be ridiculed for whom we are, how we behave or what we say or believe in. Healing starts with radical self-acceptance, with expressing any emotions related to our humiliation wound be it shame, anger, resentment, guilt, felling worthless, feeling bad, feeling not accepted. Once we accept that we are not perfect and that it’s ok to do mistakes, we stop caring about other people’s opinions and we start taking to risk of being and showing whom we truly are at our core. We slowly remove the mask that we wear and we show our true colors while being ok with other people’s views of us and we are our true selves no matter the consequences because we have learned to fully love and accept ourselves no matter what.
The positive side of healing your humiliation wound is that you get the courage to get out there a make a fool out of yourself because you are free of other people’s opinions or ridicule. It is so freeing to be yourself and to truly show whom you are authentically. You take critique with a grain of salt and only keep the constructive criticism and let everything else out. You put your own opinion above everything else, therefore letting others the freedom of being themselves. Because you free yourself, you give others the freedom of being themselves.
You have to ask yourself: where do I put myself in humiliating situations? Where don’t I respect myself and let others humiliate me and not take a stand for myself? Where don’t I stand up for myself and accept myself fully?
On the spiritual side, the humiliation wound teaches us to fully accept and embrace whom we are, to see ourselves as perfectly imperfect, to forgive ourselves and to shine our light no matter other people’s opinions or judgements. We are a spirit in a body first and foremost and we have come here to experience life through our unique view and personality and to learn from our experience and mistakes.
4. The betrayal emotional wound
The betrayal emotional wound stems from having your trust broken. Someone does something to you that makes you feel you can’t trust them anymore, something that broke the trust you had in them. If you confide in someone you trust and that person tells someone else about it or uses that against you for their own benefit or to critique, guilt or berate you, that is considered betrayal as well.
Betrayal has a big impact on your relationship because you will feel unsafe to confide yourself in that person, especially if that person is very close to you or is a love partner. You might try to repair the trust and take a chance again with that relationship but if that person betrays you again, this could harm the relationship or you could become very protective of what you are saying to that person.
If you learn to not trust a person that is very close to you that is supposed to love and protect and keep you safe and not use your vulnerability against you, you will have trouble trusting other people in your life. You will keep your secrets and your thoughts to yourself because you will have trouble trusting people.
How do we heal the betrayal wound? We express our emotions in relation to it and we choose what we share and what do not share until that person deserves our full trust. You can journal out any emotions related to how you felt when you were betrayed and find any limiting beliefs that stem from that wound. You can then transform these beliefs with more positive and empowering beliefs.
The positive side of healing your betrayal wound is that you learn to trust yourself before trusting others, that you learn to protect yourself when needed. You learn that ultimately you are the key keeper of your heart and that some people need to earn your trust before having access to it.
You have to also ask yourself where are you betraying yourself? Saying yes when you want to say no, trying to please other people while not taking into your account your own needs, accepting something that is not acceptable to you, not listening to your gut instinct, not following your intuition but other people’s opinions or advice.
On the spiritual side of things, the betrayal emotional wound teaches you that you have to ultimately trust yourself and be loyal to yourself. That you are responsible of protecting yourself and you should safeguard your vulnerability with people that don’t deserve your trust. It teaches us to stop betraying ourselves and listen to our inner guidance instead of listening to the outside noise and to take our own values into consideration instead of searching for outside validation and reassurance.
5. The injustice emotional wound
The injustice emotional wound stems from an injustice done into you in your childhood years. Something that you felt was not fair, and should have not been done to you. The injustice wound can leave a very deep scar in you and it can leave you feeling hopeless, angry, powerless.
You will see no solution and you feel that injustice that has been done into you can’t be repaired. Injustice is very painful as well because you feel that you can not change what has been done to you and that you have no power over what happened to you.
How do you heal your injustice wound? You express all emotions that come from that injustice wound and you transform your limited beliefs linked to that wound. You start making yourself justice on the things you can control and let go of the things you can not control.
Gift of the injustice wound: The best thing that can happen from the injustice wound is that we realize that we do have power in our life over other things. Were in your life you are not using your full power to get ahead in your life and get your dreams and objectives come true by applying your potential to make them true? Ask yourself: where am I betraying myself by putting my dreams and goals aside and by not fully investing myself in making them come true? Where am I betraying myself and not listening to my intuition? Where am I betraying myself by not affirming my needs and taking my rightful place and for standing for what I believe in? Where am I betraying myself by giving my time and energy to people that use me and occupations that don’t make me go forward in life?
On the spiritual side of things, the injustice emotional wound teaches us to stop sabotaging ourselves out of creating our best life. It teaches us to make ourselves justice by doing whatever necessary and fully applying ourselves and being consistent in making our dreams, objectives and dreams come true. It teaches us the importance of creating our best life by prioritizing objectives instead of giving away our time and energy to people and things that don’t deserve our valuable time and energy. It teaches us to consecrate ourselves fully to our dreams even if it means that we have to sacrifice, be consistent and focused. While we do not have control over everything in our lives and we might feel powerless, we do have control over some of it and this is where we can be powerful. Also, remember that nothing happens against you, everything happens for you, therefore, let life give you that necessary push towards the right direction by derailing you from the wrong path. Sometimes, injustice is a blessing in disguise!
If you are serious about emotional trauma, I have a video that gives you the 3 tools to heal trauma for good: https://youtu.be/8_QBeWpyqoU
Mystical Queen Goddess
Counselling therapist, spiritual guide and creator of the Transformation 360 method

Anxiety – Understanding and healing anxiety for good

Anxiety, understanding and healing anxiety
Warning: in this article, I will not teach you how to cope with anxiety (most of you know how to cope and survive with anxiety) but I will teach how to permanently get rid of it (with practical exercises) in order to find inner lasting peace.
There are many tools, tips and tricks on how to deal with and reduce anxiety but in this article I want to go to the deep root of anxiety and help you get rid of it because if I did, it is available to you as well. If someone tells you that you can not heal anxiety, it’s because they haven’t found themselves a way to do it, so they are spreading the wrong information. I shared a few tools myself on how to reduce and cope with anxiety but this article, I will not touch up on them because I wish to go a bit further.
Anxiety can be debilitating and real difficult to deal with. Let’s demystify it in order to gain clarity and be empowered when it comes to getting rid of anxiety for good. I personally have suffered with anxiety for many years and my only way to deal with it, was to eat my way out of it. I would stuff myself up with food in order to calm myself down and not feel the extreme fear that I would feel in certain situations from being triggered. I can confidently say today that my episodes of anxiety have completely vanished because I had done the required work that I will talk about later in this article.
PART 1 – Where does anxiety come from? Anxiety stems from limiting beliefs that we have believed to be true from early childhood between the age of 1 to 7. Because of things that we went through in early childhood and how they did affect us, we have made up beliefs about ourselves and the world surrounding us, in order to survive with trauma and difficult situations. These limiting (negative) beliefs have stuck with us from that early period and today we are limited by them in our daily live and they are the root of our anxiety.
This is how anxiety in the adulthood arises:
1. There is a trigger, example: your boss at work tells you that you have done a few mistakes in your work and is not very happy about it.
2. The trigger awakens your dormant limiting beliefs that could be the following: you are never enough and that you need to be perfect in order to be valued. Imagine a pool of limiting beliefs that lie dormant and when the triggers comes up (event), any of these limiting beliefs can be coming up to the surface in order to be acknowledged and healed.
Example: after your boss made that comment, you start feeling not enough and not valued and you feel the pressure of having to be perfect at work in order to be valued by your boss. You start being fearful of losing your job, you start panicking because you know you depend on that job and you freak out. Unconsciously you will fear losing your job, of not being able to pay your rent, of losing your home and dying alone and poor in the streets even. Your rational mind can go very far in a downward spiral when it comes to anxiety, you will start seeing the situation in a very negative way and have the impression that you have absolutely NO SOLUTION AND NO CONTROL over your situation.
3. Physical consequences of your anxiety (being triggered in your limiting beliefs. Example: you start having trouble breathing, you tremble, you have the impression that there is no air for you to breath, your heart beats fast, you go into panic mode, you become lightheaded and dizzy.
4. Superficial ways of dealing with your anxiety. You might be able to control your anxiety by smoking, drinking alcohol or eating or talking to a trusted friend or you might go home and still suffer from panic and emotional turmoil and not know how to deal with it. You might even try other superficial ways of shutting down your anxiety but the bottom line is that the ROOT OF YOUR PROBLEM IS STILL IN PLACE. This is where I want you to realize that you need to solve and heal the root of the problem and not be in survival mode all your life while trying to cope with your anxiety only with superficial ways that will not heal your anxiety in the long run.
PART 2 – How to permanently heal anxiety and regain your peace of mind?
Since now you know that behind anxiety, there are limiting beliefs, you become aware that once there is no limiting belief to be triggered, there is no anxiety anymore. When the limiting belief disappears, the trigger becomes irrelevant. When the limiting beliefs stays, any other situation happening in your life will trigger you in your limiting beliefs. So the true solution is to find and transform the limiting beliefs so that when the same or similar event occurs (that we gave as an example earlier), there will be no limiting beliefs to be triggered.
I told you earlier to imagine a pool of limiting beliefs that lie dormant and when the triggers comes up (event), any of these limiting beliefs can be coming up to the surface in order to be acknowledged and healed. Imagine transforming all your limiting beliefs for good. Imagine the same pool with no more limiting beliefs now. Even if there is a trigger (event), there is nothing to come to the surface anymore because every limiting belief has been neutralized and replaced. No limiting beliefs equals no trigger, therefore no more anxiety. If you are serious about applying yourself to heal your anxiety, this is the way to go about it.
So how do we go about doing that?
Step 1 – We journal the heck out of the trigger 😊 – some humor is always helpful! When I started doing work on my anxiety a few years ago, I had an erasing board in my room and each time I would come home anxious, I would write down all my emotions and not stop until I would find my limiting beliefs. That was a major stage in my life where I have healed my anxiety. So let’s start equipping you with my method of healing your anxiety as well!
Take a journal and a pen and start asking yourself these following questions:
How did I started feeling anxious, what was the trigger?
Step 2: Start writing down all the emotions that come up for you without judging them. You can make complete sentences or just jotting down how you feel. Example: I feel fearful, alone, abandoned, in distress, anxious, I see no solution.
Step 3: Next question to ask yourself is: what limiting beliefs are coming up for me right now? Start writing them down. Example: I am not enough; there is something wrong with me; I have to be perfect in order to be loved; etc.
Step 4: Let’s transform your limiting beliefs so that next time a similar situation arises, you are not triggered in your anxiety anymore. The more you transform your limiting beliefs the less situations will be triggering for you. And here is my reason of why anxiety might come back even if you had done the work explained here. The only valid reason that anxiety might come back is because there ARE NEW LIMTING BELIEFS THAT ARE COMING UP TO THE SURFACE AND NEED TO BE TRANSFORMED. If you have successfully transformed all your limiting beliefs (it takes time to identify them all), there will be no more triggers for you or very little.
Make a table with two columns in your journal : in the left-side column – identify your limiting beliefs. In the right-side column, create new empowering and positive beliefs. See following image as an example:
Once you have completed the required table of beliefs, it’s time for you to transform them.
There are a few ways to transform your limiting beliefs and I invite you to choose the one that resonates with you the most:
Option 1: as soon as you wake up, visualize your limiting beliefs being destroyed. Now visualize your new empowering and positive beliefs entering your body. Do this exercise for a few mornings until you feel that they stuck with you and you have no doubt that they are true.
Option 2: Do the same exercise as option 1 but do it at the end of your meditation if you do meditate. You can also find meditation on Youtube with no voice on them, and when you feel the more calm and peaceful, you can transform your beliefs as explained above.
Option 3: when you are ready to sleep and you are almost fallen asleep, you can do the same exercise as explained at Option 1.
The three options explained above are situations where your brain can be reprogramed and this is why you have to do this reprograming exercise at a specific time of the day or when you are most relaxed. You brain needs to be in theta or alpha brain waves in order to be reprogramed. Therefore, meditation and when you are feeling asleep are the times when your brain would be in theta and alpha waves so best used for this type of brain reprograming.
You will have to do this exercise multiple times in order to transform all of your limiting beliefs. Each time your anxiety comes up, there is a new opportunity for you to find and transform your limiting beliefs. But the limiting beliefs you have transformed will not be triggered anymore, only the ones that are still uncovered, will come up to the surface for the purpose of healing and transformation.
Best of all, transforming your limiting beliefs will not only have an impact on your anxiety but at many levels in your life. Imagine living all your life in a box because your limiting beliefs are doing just that: limiting you and putting you in a box. Imagine now removing these paralyzing and limiting beliefs and getting out of that small box that you have kept yourself in all your life. Imagine living from an unlimited perspective! A new world will open up to you! Your frequency will get higher and higher; therefore, you will attract to you more abundance at all levels. Moreover, by transforming your limited mindset, you will become empowered and your inner Queen-self will be awakened. Your intuition will become clearer and guide you to your best life! If that doesn’t motivates you to heal your anxiety, I don’t know what will!
So now you have all the tools necessary to heal your anxiety. Feel free to ask me any questions if you have any unanswered questions around healing anxiety and it will be my pleasure to guide you.
Mystical Queen Goddess
Counselling therapist, spiritual guide and creator of the Transformation 360 method.
Because your Inner Queen wants you to experience abundance at all levels!

TOP 3 TOOLS you can use to release energetical blockages and transform limiting beliefs in order to manifest what you want (for spiritual women)

TOP 3 TOOLS you can use to release energetical blockages and transform limiting beliefs and get much closer to attracting better experiences and more ABUNDANCE in your life AT ALL LEVELS! (for spiritual women)

 Are you ready to transform your life? Then read the following! Why is the following important? Because without doing the necessary work to release your emotional blockages, transforming your limiting beliefs and raising your frequency, you will forever stay STUCK and UNHAPPY.
The more you heal and release emotional blockages, the more your energetical frequency rises up and the closer you will get to attracting your true love soulmat, more money, more inner peace and self-confidence. 
In a recent FB Live I did, a lady in my group commented that she can not heal because she IS BROKEN 😌, which made me think that other women out there and maybe even yourself might think this to be true about yourself because of your difficult past, that you are BROKEN in some type of way or form and there is no hope for you, which is completely not true!
You are not a lamp, not a wood table, not a glass that can be broken, you are an energetical being and energy can not be destroyed but only transformed 🌟💫.
So if you want to heighten your energetical frequency, here are my top 3 tools you can use to release energetical blockages and limiting beliefs and get much closer to attracting better experiences and more ABUNDANCE in your life.
TOOL NUMBER 1: – Identify a current trigger in your life. It can be a negative belief about yourself (I am broken, I am not enough, Something is wrong with me) or something that someone did to you and pissed you off. Practical exercise: Take a piece of paper and a pen or pencil 📝, and jot down everything that comes up without judging anything what you are writing. Don’t try to analyze or understand and shut down your mental just for a moment and TRUST THAT WHATEVER COMES OUT ON THAT PAPER IS OK. You don’t need to judge it, to analyze it, to understand it, to make it valid or not. Trust yourself because the more you let your mental mind control your emotional mind, the more you will stay energetically blocked and tour energetical frequency will stay the same, therefore manifest the same S?*T IN YOUR LIFE. By writing down anything that you think or feel and expressing everything WITHOUT CENSORING YOURSELF, you will release emotional blockages and also identify current limiting beliefs that you might have underneath the ones that you are already aware of. These limiting beliefs are key for the next tool number 2 that will bring your transformation process further.
TOOL NUMBER 2: – Once you have identified the limiting beliefs in Tool number 1, it is time for you to transform these beliefs 🎉! Practical exercise: Take a piece of paper and draw a table with two columns. In the 1st column to the left, write down your limiting negative beliefs (example: I am not worthy of love, I am not valuable, I am weird), and in the right column, write down new positive beliefs that you want to have (I am worthy of love, I love myself first, I am valuable, I am ok as I am, I accept myself fully). Try to memorize these new positive beliefs and AS SOON AS YOU WAKE UP and WHEN YOU ARE JUST FALLING ASLEEP (BEST TIME TO REPROGRAM YOUR MIND), repeat these beliefs in your head for at least 30 days. Slowly but surely, your unconscious will buy into these new beliefs and your life will start to transform to reflect your NEW POSITIVE BELIEFS. SO WITHIN, SO WITHOUT! So within, so without means that your inner beliefs and thoughts manifest themselves in your outer reality. In order to transform your life 👑🥰, you need to transform yourself internally first! (Personal note: I will tattoo myself this sentence (so within, so without!), this is how much I believe it is true for anybody that wants to learn how to manifest more abundance in their life!). This is an UNIVERSAL TRUTH and when you have understood this, you have made A MAJOR LEAP IN YOUR LIFE!
TOOL NUMBER 3 – Choose your feelings consciously to RAISE YOUR VIBRATION. If you are feeling anger, sadness, frustration, sorrow, grief, resentment, envy, jealousy, these are very low vibrational emotions that will keep you stuck in manifesting difficult situations OVER AND OVER AGAIN. If you feel stuck and unhappy and can’t manage to MANIFEST WHAT YOU REALLY WANT in your life, this is a powerful tool to GET UNSTUCK! Practical exercise: Close your eyes, take three deep breaths, imagine putting all your difficult emotions in a box and giving it away to the universe to transmute it into light and give thanks. Have the intention to heal and feel GRATITUDE for your healing! Your intention is a very powerful tool as well! You will feel instant relief and lighter than before, continue giving your heavy vibrational emotions for transmutation into light, until you feel that there is a empty space for new higher vibrational emotions to fill in that space that you have cleaned out: practice feeling more PEACE, LOVE, GRATITUDE and FAITH that anything you need will show up for you when you need it.
EXTRA TOOL NUMBER 4: MIND YOUR WORDS! Don’t speak negative words or affirmations into existence. Your words are very powerful! Be also aware of contradictions that might come out of your mouth like: I want more money, but I am broke! I want to meet someone that loves me but I am unlovable! It will cancel away all your positive intention because your words are like speaking a new reality into your existence.
If you practice all these 4 tools in the next months seriously, I guarantee this will change your life and you will start attracting better experiences and more abundance in your life, BUT YOU HAVE TO DO THE WORK. Do not stay in a VICTIM MENTALITY and do the necessary work to take yourself outside of your current reality and manifest the best reality for yourself 👑 !
Ask me any questions you might have below. 💜
Mystical Queen Goddess
Counselling therapist, spiritual guide and creator of the Transformation 360 method.
Because your Inner Queen wants you to experience abundance at all levels!