The myths and lies on emotions

THE MYTHS AND LIES ON EMOTIONS…
 
You should be ashamed of your emotions…
 
You should not show your emotions…
 
You should hide how you feel and make others believe you are fine…
 
You should control your emotions…
 
You are too much, stop being so intense…
 
You are too sensitive, stop crying!
 
No wonder, you have learned to stuff down your emotions with food or alcohol, to watch TV (Netflix anyone?) to numb yourself, to feel disconnected from yourself, to feel wrong for being sensitive, for not knowing how to deal with your emotional triggers when someone says something or does something to you that triggers you and your emotional wounds…
 
THE TRUTH IS THAT :
 
You were created to have emotions…
 
Emotions are perfectly normal, not having emotions is not…
 
You had parents that did not know how to comfort you or listen to you when you were emotional…
 
You have not learned to deal with your emotions therefore you fall into the trap of bad habits to numb your emotions…
 
Your anxiety is just a sign that blocked emotions need to come up to the surface and be released…
 
You might feel completely disconnected from yourself…because when you cut yourself from feeling, you cut yourself from your essence, whom you are…
 
Emotions are the pathway to your true self because they have a message and you are not listening to that message….therefore not being true to yourself
 
The validation you need from others is just a sign that you are completely disconnected from your own higher self…whom always accepts you and values you
 
We live in a society where women are judged for being emotional especially empaths and lightworkers
 
IT IS TIME FOR YOU TO:
 
Give yourself the right to feel whatever emotions are there for you…
 
Accept that you might be more sensitive that the majority of women…because you have an empathic soul…
 
Accept that it is painful to feel after all these years of numbing yourself…one day at a time makes it easier…practice staying aware of your feelings even if it’s a few seconds per day….increase the time when you feel ready to go to the next level!
 
Find ways to express yourself either being painting, journaling, especially if you are introverted (ask for the violet flame of Master St-Germain (a purple, pink and violet flame) to envelop you and comfort you and ease the intensity of your emotions but still do the work of expressing and releasing your emotions)…
 
Give yourself the right to be yourself and be vulnerable towards the people that are close to you and that you trust…since being vulnerable helps you build a strong intimate connection with your partner or future partner…
 
IT IS TIME FOR YOU TO BECOME WHOM YOU WERE MADE TO BE…A WOMAN WITH EMOTIONAL POWER…
 
THE POWER OF BEING A HUMAN BEING WITH FEELINGS THAT GUIDE YOU TOWARDS YOUR TRUE SELF, TO YOUR NEEDS AND WANTS AND BOUNDARIES AND YOUR LIFE MISSION…
 
Feeling your emotions allows you to feel your boundaries and say no…and so much more benefits:
 
…it allows you to feel what you truly want and ask for it…
 
…it allows you to tap into your intuition easier because by releasing emotions you clear the channel to have a more clear intuition…
 
…it allows you to get to know yourself more…
 
…it allows you to release emotional blockages that keep your vibration low…and therefore attract situations and people to you that you don’t want…
 
…it allows you to avoid feeling sick because emotions that are stuck in your physical body can become physical ailments later on in your life…
 
…it allows you to get clear on your negative beliefs and choose new and more empowering ones…
 
…it allows you to release your emotional wounds from your childhood in your to stop manifesting the same pattern over and over again….it gets you out of the loop of living the same frustrations over and over…
 
Basically, emotions are a treasure if you allow yourself to feel your uncomfortable emotions, but this treasure is really worth it!
 
Without accepting to feel and release your emotions, you will feel like an alien in your own body because you will feel empty. That emptiness is not feeling what wants to come up and tell you a message…
 
Are you ready to listen and discover the jewels of your inner treasure?
 
Ask me any questions beautiful soul, it will be my great pleasure to guide you…
 
Bianca aka Mystical Queen Goddess

Anxiety – Understanding and healing anxiety for good

Anxiety, understanding and healing anxiety
 
Warning: in this article, I will not teach you how to cope with anxiety (most of you know how to cope and survive with anxiety) but I will teach how to permanently get rid of it (with practical exercises) in order to find inner lasting peace.
 
There are many tools, tips and tricks on how to deal with and reduce anxiety but in this article I want to go to the deep root of anxiety and help you get rid of it because if I did, it is available to you as well. If someone tells you that you can not heal anxiety, it’s because they haven’t found themselves a way to do it, so they are spreading the wrong information. I shared a few tools myself on how to reduce and cope with anxiety but this article, I will not touch up on them because I wish to go a bit further.
 
Anxiety can be debilitating and real difficult to deal with. Let’s demystify it in order to gain clarity and be empowered when it comes to getting rid of anxiety for good. I personally have suffered with anxiety for many years and my only way to deal with it, was to eat my way out of it. I would stuff myself up with food in order to calm myself down and not feel the extreme fear that I would feel in certain situations from being triggered. I can confidently say today that my episodes of anxiety have completely vanished because I had done the required work that I will talk about later in this article.
 
PART 1 – Where does anxiety come from? Anxiety stems from limiting beliefs that we have believed to be true from early childhood between the age of 1 to 7. Because of things that we went through in early childhood and how they did affect us, we have made up beliefs about ourselves and the world surrounding us, in order to survive with trauma and difficult situations. These limiting (negative) beliefs have stuck with us from that early period and today we are limited by them in our daily live and they are the root of our anxiety.
 
This is how anxiety in the adulthood arises:
 
1. There is a trigger, example: your boss at work tells you that you have done a few mistakes in your work and is not very happy about it.
 
2. The trigger awakens your dormant limiting beliefs that could be the following: you are never enough and that you need to be perfect in order to be valued. Imagine a pool of limiting beliefs that lie dormant and when the triggers comes up (event), any of these limiting beliefs can be coming up to the surface in order to be acknowledged and healed.
 
Example: after your boss made that comment, you start feeling not enough and not valued and you feel the pressure of having to be perfect at work in order to be valued by your boss. You start being fearful of losing your job, you start panicking because you know you depend on that job and you freak out. Unconsciously you will fear losing your job, of not being able to pay your rent, of losing your home and dying alone and poor in the streets even. Your rational mind can go very far in a downward spiral when it comes to anxiety, you will start seeing the situation in a very negative way and have the impression that you have absolutely NO SOLUTION AND NO CONTROL over your situation.
 
3. Physical consequences of your anxiety (being triggered in your limiting beliefs. Example: you start having trouble breathing, you tremble, you have the impression that there is no air for you to breath, your heart beats fast, you go into panic mode, you become lightheaded and dizzy.
 
4. Superficial ways of dealing with your anxiety. You might be able to control your anxiety by smoking, drinking alcohol or eating or talking to a trusted friend or you might go home and still suffer from panic and emotional turmoil and not know how to deal with it. You might even try other superficial ways of shutting down your anxiety but the bottom line is that the ROOT OF YOUR PROBLEM IS STILL IN PLACE. This is where I want you to realize that you need to solve and heal the root of the problem and not be in survival mode all your life while trying to cope with your anxiety only with superficial ways that will not heal your anxiety in the long run.
PART 2 – How to permanently heal anxiety and regain your peace of mind?
 
Since now you know that behind anxiety, there are limiting beliefs, you become aware that once there is no limiting belief to be triggered, there is no anxiety anymore. When the limiting belief disappears, the trigger becomes irrelevant. When the limiting beliefs stays, any other situation happening in your life will trigger you in your limiting beliefs. So the true solution is to find and transform the limiting beliefs so that when the same or similar event occurs (that we gave as an example earlier), there will be no limiting beliefs to be triggered.
 
I told you earlier to imagine a pool of limiting beliefs that lie dormant and when the triggers comes up (event), any of these limiting beliefs can be coming up to the surface in order to be acknowledged and healed. Imagine transforming all your limiting beliefs for good. Imagine the same pool with no more limiting beliefs now. Even if there is a trigger (event), there is nothing to come to the surface anymore because every limiting belief has been neutralized and replaced. No limiting beliefs equals no trigger, therefore no more anxiety. If you are serious about applying yourself to heal your anxiety, this is the way to go about it.
 
So how do we go about doing that?
 
Step 1 – We journal the heck out of the trigger 😊 – some humor is always helpful! When I started doing work on my anxiety a few years ago, I had an erasing board in my room and each time I would come home anxious, I would write down all my emotions and not stop until I would find my limiting beliefs. That was a major stage in my life where I have healed my anxiety. So let’s start equipping you with my method of healing your anxiety as well!
 
Take a journal and a pen and start asking yourself these following questions:
 
How did I started feeling anxious, what was the trigger?
 
Step 2: Start writing down all the emotions that come up for you without judging them. You can make complete sentences or just jotting down how you feel. Example: I feel fearful, alone, abandoned, in distress, anxious, I see no solution.
 
Step 3: Next question to ask yourself is: what limiting beliefs are coming up for me right now? Start writing them down. Example: I am not enough; there is something wrong with me; I have to be perfect in order to be loved; etc.
 
Step 4: Let’s transform your limiting beliefs so that next time a similar situation arises, you are not triggered in your anxiety anymore. The more you transform your limiting beliefs the less situations will be triggering for you. And here is my reason of why anxiety might come back even if you had done the work explained here. The only valid reason that anxiety might come back is because there ARE NEW LIMTING BELIEFS THAT ARE COMING UP TO THE SURFACE AND NEED TO BE TRANSFORMED. If you have successfully transformed all your limiting beliefs (it takes time to identify them all), there will be no more triggers for you or very little.
 
Make a table with two columns in your journal : in the left-side column – identify your limiting beliefs. In the right-side column, create new empowering and positive beliefs. See following image as an example:
Once you have completed the required table of beliefs, it’s time for you to transform them.
 
There are a few ways to transform your limiting beliefs and I invite you to choose the one that resonates with you the most:
 
Option 1: as soon as you wake up, visualize your limiting beliefs being destroyed. Now visualize your new empowering and positive beliefs entering your body. Do this exercise for a few mornings until you feel that they stuck with you and you have no doubt that they are true.
 
Option 2: Do the same exercise as option 1 but do it at the end of your meditation if you do meditate. You can also find meditation on Youtube with no voice on them, and when you feel the more calm and peaceful, you can transform your beliefs as explained above.
 
Option 3: when you are ready to sleep and you are almost fallen asleep, you can do the same exercise as explained at Option 1.
 
The three options explained above are situations where your brain can be reprogramed and this is why you have to do this reprograming exercise at a specific time of the day or when you are most relaxed. You brain needs to be in theta or alpha brain waves in order to be reprogramed. Therefore, meditation and when you are feeling asleep are the times when your brain would be in theta and alpha waves so best used for this type of brain reprograming.
 
Conclusion
 
You will have to do this exercise multiple times in order to transform all of your limiting beliefs. Each time your anxiety comes up, there is a new opportunity for you to find and transform your limiting beliefs. But the limiting beliefs you have transformed will not be triggered anymore, only the ones that are still uncovered, will come up to the surface for the purpose of healing and transformation.
 
Best of all, transforming your limiting beliefs will not only have an impact on your anxiety but at many levels in your life. Imagine living all your life in a box because your limiting beliefs are doing just that: limiting you and putting you in a box. Imagine now removing these paralyzing and limiting beliefs and getting out of that small box that you have kept yourself in all your life. Imagine living from an unlimited perspective! A new world will open up to you! Your frequency will get higher and higher; therefore, you will attract to you more abundance at all levels. Moreover, by transforming your limited mindset, you will become empowered and your inner Queen-self will be awakened. Your intuition will become clearer and guide you to your best life! If that doesn’t motivates you to heal your anxiety, I don’t know what will!
 
So now you have all the tools necessary to heal your anxiety. Feel free to ask me any questions if you have any unanswered questions around healing anxiety and it will be my pleasure to guide you.
 
Mystical Queen Goddess
Counselling therapist, spiritual guide and creator of the Transformation 360 method.
Because your Inner Queen wants you to experience abundance at all levels!

Here are the 10 amazing benefits of processing your emotions!

Here are the 10 amazing benefits of processing your emotions!
 
1. You will fill less empty – cutting yourself from your emotions is like denying a part of yourself – the more you allow yourself to feel, the more you have access to more parts of you that stay hidden. When you feel empty, it’s often because you are not in touch with past trauma, emotions from the past, parts of you that you have learned to hide in order to be loved and accepted.
 
2. Your intuition will become clearer – the more you express your emotions, the more you become centered and you get access to your wisdom, your inner gut feeling. When you don’t process your emotions, it’s like blocking intuition from reaching you. You need to become a clear vessel for your intuition to come through.
 
3. You could lose some weight (if you are used to drinking alcohol or eating when you don’t want to feel) – keeping your emotions buried had you piling on some weight. The less you need to burry your feelings and emotions, the less calories you’re intaking and the more unnecessary weight will start to drop off. The more you deal with and feel and express your emotions, the less you’ll go to food to help you cope.
 
4. You will feel more peace – it takes energy to not do what is natural to a human being – feeling your emotions, and the more you fight against your natural and born quality of having emotions, the more stress, anxiety will pile up in your system. Finding a healthy way to express your emotions be it journaling, seeing a therapist (etc.), speaking to a friend you trust and that is a good listener, etc, the more peace you will feel because underneath grief, sadness, anger, envy, fear, your soul is always at peace and trusting in a higher power.
 
5. Your energetical frequency will get higher, therefore manifest easier – if you hold low vibrational emotions, your frequency will be low, therefore you will keep attracting what you don’t want. The more you deal with your emotions and get them out of your system, the higher your frequency will get at and the easier will be for you to manifest what you want. Low frequency attracts low frequency situations and people and high frequency attracts high frequency situations and high frequency people to you. This is the law of attraction at work!
 
6. You will become more light and joyful – if you have built up emotional trauma, you might feel sad, depressed and heavy in your spirit. Put your emotions down on paper, talk to a non-judgmental and no-advice giving friend, paint a canvas without judging your artistic skills (dollar stores will do just fine). You need to express the negative emotions in order to access your positive emotions and anything else will be superficial, forceful and not lasting.
 
7. You will find the right solutions to your problems – if you keep your emotions bottled up, you will have the tendency to go in your head to find solutions and since the mind is limited (not like intuition – unlimited), you might not find the best solutions to your problems. If you deal with your pain, you get access to your intuition, therefore the best solutions will present themselves to you. By journaling and jotting down everything that bothers you on paper, you access the universal intelligence that you always have access to, if you do the necessary work.
 
8. It will become easier for you to put boundaries – if you get access to how you feel, you will uncover what its not ok for you and you will be able to better decide what boundaries you need to put around you in order for you to feel more respected by your friends, family or partner. If you ignore your inner boundaries and what you body is trying to communicate to you, you will not be able to know where you need to make yourself respected and communicate to others how you want to be treated. Others will not know your limits and you can not blame them because you don’t communicate clearly what is ok with you and what isn’t.
 
9. You will have less chances of becoming sick – emotions that are stuck in your system can become toxic for your body and for your body trying to deal with them and contain them, it could develop illnesses further down the road. I am not an expert on this, but I talk from experience and there are a few books that explain the emotional reasons for each illness. The more you get these toxic emotions out of your system, the less your body will have to express itself through sickness because there is so much that your body can take when it comes to toxic emotions.
 
10. You will uncover your limiting negative beliefs – behind every emotional blockage that you have, there is at least 1 limiting belief that is holding you back. The more I dove into my emotional blockages, the more I was able to uncover my own limiting beliefs and was able to transform them, and as a result, transform my life. Your limiting beliefs will limit you from experiencing your full power as a women, block you from loving and valuing yourself, from manifesting abundance in your life, etc. Limiting beliefs are truly disempowering and in order to uncover them, working to release your emotions is one of the easiest methods to be successful at finding your limiting beliefs.
 
Mystical Queen Goddess
Counselling therapist, spiritual guide and creator of the Transformation 360 method.
Because your Inner Queen wants you to experience abundance at all levels!
 

Why you should allow yourself to feel your emotions (for spiritual women)

Why you should allow yourself to feel your emotions! (for spiritual women)

I grew up in a house where emotions where like aliens…I learned to hide them, to be ashamed of them, to burry them with food. Having emotions and expressing them was not a natural thing in my home, the contrary was true.
 
So what was a girl like me to do when something difficult was happening to me that made me feel all kinds of emotions that I haven’t learned to deal with…or that I was in trouble and I needed to come up with a solution…
 
I ended up being so afraid of feeling because it was so alien to me to feel, that I was immediately going into my rational mind, trying to put a meaning on things or trying to find the perfect solution.
It took me years to allow myself to feel, to stop judging myself as too sensitive, to accept that I was an emotional human being and that emotions are TOTALLY NORMAL.
 
If it feels alien to you to feel and you find yourself overthinking, I need you to realize that you need to transform that pattern in order to stop overthinking. Here are 5 steps to help you with that.
 
1. Breathe, slowly breath in your tummy for 3 seconds, hold for 3 seconds and expel the air for 3 seconds. Repeat until you feel calmer.
 
2. Ask yourself: what I am feeling right now? Am I afraid, am I angry, upset, sad, insecure? Accept that emotion.
 
3. If you need to vent, start scribbling or writing on a note pad to get out your toxic emotions. Hit or scream in a pillow until your anger goes away. Cry until your feel at peace. Hold a teddy bear if you need comforting. Become that mother figure that you never had for your inner child, a mother that is nurturing, comforting, accepting and loving.
 
4. By releasing your emotions and allowing yourself to feel, you will find peace of mind and stop overthinking and this will give you access to your intuition. Remember that your mind is limited and your intuition is unlimited because it is connected to the universal intelligence. The best solutions and answers come from your intuition.
 
5. Return to your heart space, by putting your hand on your heart and ask yourself: what do I need right now? How can I accept more the situation because accepting is always the first step to less suffering? What can I do about this situation? What is the 1st step that I can take to resolve this conflict? Where do I need to let go on what I can’t do or can’t understand? And if you find any limiting beliefs, ask yourself if they are true? Because in most cases they are not.
 
Remember that emotions are natural and not allowing yourself to feel them will have lots of negative consequences on you and your life.
 
Mystical Queen Goddess
Counselling therapist, spiritual guide and creator of the Transformation 360 method.
Because your Inner Queen wants you to experience abundance at all levels!