Anxiety, understanding and healing anxiety
Warning: in this article, I will not teach you how to cope with anxiety (most of you know how to cope and survive with anxiety) but I will teach how to permanently get rid of it (with practical exercises) in order to find inner lasting peace.
There are many tools, tips and tricks on how to deal with and reduce anxiety but in this article I want to go to the deep root of anxiety and help you get rid of it because if I did, it is available to you as well. If someone tells you that you can not heal anxiety, it’s because they haven’t found themselves a way to do it, so they are spreading the wrong information. I shared a few tools myself on how to reduce and cope with anxiety but this article, I will not touch up on them because I wish to go a bit further.
Anxiety can be debilitating and real difficult to deal with. Let’s demystify it in order to gain clarity and be empowered when it comes to getting rid of anxiety for good. I personally have suffered with anxiety for many years and my only way to deal with it, was to eat my way out of it. I would stuff myself up with food in order to calm myself down and not feel the extreme fear that I would feel in certain situations from being triggered. I can confidently say today that my episodes of anxiety have completely vanished because I had done the required work that I will talk about later in this article.
PART 1 – Where does anxiety come from? Anxiety stems from limiting beliefs that we have believed to be true from early childhood between the age of 1 to 7. Because of things that we went through in early childhood and how they did affect us, we have made up beliefs about ourselves and the world surrounding us, in order to survive with trauma and difficult situations. These limiting (negative) beliefs have stuck with us from that early period and today we are limited by them in our daily live and they are the root of our anxiety.
This is how anxiety in the adulthood arises:
1. There is a trigger, example: your boss at work tells you that you have done a few mistakes in your work and is not very happy about it.
2. The trigger awakens your dormant limiting beliefs that could be the following: you are never enough and that you need to be perfect in order to be valued. Imagine a pool of limiting beliefs that lie dormant and when the triggers comes up (event), any of these limiting beliefs can be coming up to the surface in order to be acknowledged and healed.
Example: after your boss made that comment, you start feeling not enough and not valued and you feel the pressure of having to be perfect at work in order to be valued by your boss. You start being fearful of losing your job, you start panicking because you know you depend on that job and you freak out. Unconsciously you will fear losing your job, of not being able to pay your rent, of losing your home and dying alone and poor in the streets even. Your rational mind can go very far in a downward spiral when it comes to anxiety, you will start seeing the situation in a very negative way and have the impression that you have absolutely NO SOLUTION AND NO CONTROL over your situation.
3. Physical consequences of your anxiety (being triggered in your limiting beliefs. Example: you start having trouble breathing, you tremble, you have the impression that there is no air for you to breath, your heart beats fast, you go into panic mode, you become lightheaded and dizzy.
4. Superficial ways of dealing with your anxiety. You might be able to control your anxiety by smoking, drinking alcohol or eating or talking to a trusted friend or you might go home and still suffer from panic and emotional turmoil and not know how to deal with it. You might even try other superficial ways of shutting down your anxiety but the bottom line is that the ROOT OF YOUR PROBLEM IS STILL IN PLACE. This is where I want you to realize that you need to solve and heal the root of the problem and not be in survival mode all your life while trying to cope with your anxiety only with superficial ways that will not heal your anxiety in the long run.
PART 2 – How to permanently heal anxiety and regain your peace of mind?
Since now you know that behind anxiety, there are limiting beliefs, you become aware that once there is no limiting belief to be triggered, there is no anxiety anymore. When the limiting belief disappears, the trigger becomes irrelevant. When the limiting beliefs stays, any other situation happening in your life will trigger you in your limiting beliefs. So the true solution is to find and transform the limiting beliefs so that when the same or similar event occurs (that we gave as an example earlier), there will be no limiting beliefs to be triggered.
I told you earlier to imagine a pool of limiting beliefs that lie dormant and when the triggers comes up (event), any of these limiting beliefs can be coming up to the surface in order to be acknowledged and healed. Imagine transforming all your limiting beliefs for good. Imagine the same pool with no more limiting beliefs now. Even if there is a trigger (event), there is nothing to come to the surface anymore because every limiting belief has been neutralized and replaced. No limiting beliefs equals no trigger, therefore no more anxiety. If you are serious about applying yourself to heal your anxiety, this is the way to go about it.
So how do we go about doing that?
Step 1 – We journal the heck out of the trigger – some humor is always helpful! When I started doing work on my anxiety a few years ago, I had an erasing board in my room and each time I would come home anxious, I would write down all my emotions and not stop until I would find my limiting beliefs. That was a major stage in my life where I have healed my anxiety. So let’s start equipping you with my method of healing your anxiety as well!
Take a journal and a pen and start asking yourself these following questions:
How did I started feeling anxious, what was the trigger?
Step 2: Start writing down all the emotions that come up for you without judging them. You can make complete sentences or just jotting down how you feel. Example: I feel fearful, alone, abandoned, in distress, anxious, I see no solution.
Step 3: Next question to ask yourself is: what limiting beliefs are coming up for me right now? Start writing them down. Example: I am not enough; there is something wrong with me; I have to be perfect in order to be loved; etc.
Step 4: Let’s transform your limiting beliefs so that next time a similar situation arises, you are not triggered in your anxiety anymore. The more you transform your limiting beliefs the less situations will be triggering for you. And here is my reason of why anxiety might come back even if you had done the work explained here. The only valid reason that anxiety might come back is because there ARE NEW LIMTING BELIEFS THAT ARE COMING UP TO THE SURFACE AND NEED TO BE TRANSFORMED. If you have successfully transformed all your limiting beliefs (it takes time to identify them all), there will be no more triggers for you or very little.
Make a table with two columns in your journal : in the left-side column – identify your limiting beliefs. In the right-side column, create new empowering and positive beliefs. See following image as an example:
Once you have completed the required table of beliefs, it’s time for you to transform them.
There are a few ways to transform your limiting beliefs and I invite you to choose the one that resonates with you the most:
Option 1: as soon as you wake up, visualize your limiting beliefs being destroyed. Now visualize your new empowering and positive beliefs entering your body. Do this exercise for a few mornings until you feel that they stuck with you and you have no doubt that they are true.
Option 2: Do the same exercise as option 1 but do it at the end of your meditation if you do meditate. You can also find meditation on Youtube with no voice on them, and when you feel the more calm and peaceful, you can transform your beliefs as explained above.
Option 3: when you are ready to sleep and you are almost fallen asleep, you can do the same exercise as explained at Option 1.
The three options explained above are situations where your brain can be reprogramed and this is why you have to do this reprograming exercise at a specific time of the day or when you are most relaxed. You brain needs to be in theta or alpha brain waves in order to be reprogramed. Therefore, meditation and when you are feeling asleep are the times when your brain would be in theta and alpha waves so best used for this type of brain reprograming.
You will have to do this exercise multiple times in order to transform all of your limiting beliefs. Each time your anxiety comes up, there is a new opportunity for you to find and transform your limiting beliefs. But the limiting beliefs you have transformed will not be triggered anymore, only the ones that are still uncovered, will come up to the surface for the purpose of healing and transformation.
Best of all, transforming your limiting beliefs will not only have an impact on your anxiety but at many levels in your life. Imagine living all your life in a box because your limiting beliefs are doing just that: limiting you and putting you in a box. Imagine now removing these paralyzing and limiting beliefs and getting out of that small box that you have kept yourself in all your life. Imagine living from an unlimited perspective! A new world will open up to you! Your frequency will get higher and higher; therefore, you will attract to you more abundance at all levels. Moreover, by transforming your limited mindset, you will become empowered and your inner Queen-self will be awakened. Your intuition will become clearer and guide you to your best life! If that doesn’t motivates you to heal your anxiety, I don’t know what will!
So now you have all the tools necessary to heal your anxiety. Feel free to ask me any questions if you have any unanswered questions around healing anxiety and it will be my pleasure to guide you.
Mystical Queen Goddess
Counselling therapist, spiritual guide and creator of the Transformation 360 method.
Because your Inner Queen wants you to experience abundance at all levels!