How to repair your relationship with money
Your relationship with money stems mainly from your childhood. Whenever someone talked about money or fights that you had to see in your childhood around money, have all shaped the way you view money.
In my own household when I was a child, there were fights around money which made me believe that there was never enough. The fridge would often be almost empty, but somehow, food would appear on the table when it was time to eat.
Scarcity and lack were the main theme in my own childhood relationship with money. My father had the opportunities and the talent to make a lot of money but somehow, in our house, there is never enough…
When I grew up and started earning money, I managed unconsciously to create the same theme in my life, by spending everything I earned. Since I was comfortable with the idea that there is not enough money, I was creating the same scarcity environment in my adult life.
So, what is your story around money? Did you live in an abundant environment or in a lack and scarcity environment when it came to money? Your past has a big influence on the beliefs you have created for yourself around money, the way you earn money, how you spend money, how you receive and give money, how you invest or save money. You also have a comfortable limit when it comes to money. If you are not comfortable with having a certain amount in your bank account, you will subconsciously behave in a way so that you have less money in your money account even if you have the possibility to have more. To be able to have 2K in your bank account, you have to vibrate at the same frequency as that 2K. The more you raise your money frequency, the more you will be able to sustain money in your life. If your frequency around money is of 500$, you will always manage to spend your money so that you get to that comfortable limit of 500$ and not more.
Also, if you are afraid of letting go of money when you pay your bills (or don’t feel good when you pay your bills) or you don’t allow yourself to buy yourself something you like and you hold on to money because you are afraid it won’t come back to you, you will struggle with money. You have to learn to let money flow, giving and receiving, believing that it will come back to you in any shape or form. Don’t hold on to money like you hold on to dear life, let it circulate and money will come back to you.
Your relationship with money should be like the relationship with a person. I encourage you strongly to consider money as your best friend. If you don’t trust money, if you don’t love money, how do you want money to love you back and support you? It will despise you as much as you despise it (money). Open yourself to the idea that there is more than enough money in the world and there is always enough for you. Let money support you and be your best friend.
There is this generalized idea that money makes people greedy and mean. Actually, it works the other way around: good people do good things with money and greedy and mean people do bad things with money. Money doesn’t change whom you are, it only amplifies whom you are. I do trust that you are a good person so having more money would mean for you that you would be able to improve your life and the life of other people as well, if you wish to.
Take a journal and jot down all your limiting (negative beliefs) that you have around money. Remember events from your childhood around money and write down how it did impact your money mindset. Once you have done that, start challenging them. Are they true? Or are they beliefs that society imposed on you or are these beliefs a result of your childhood upbringing – of your mother and father (or caretakers)’s own beliefs? Is it worth punishing yourself because of other people’s limiting behaviors and beliefs around money? Don’t you deserve to have a good and healthy relationship with money? I believe you do and you can create new positive and empowering beliefs around money. From not having enough, you can start believing that there is more money than you need for you, that you love money and money loves you back, and that the better relationship you establish around money, the more money wilt take care of you.
Do you even dare to look at your bank account or are you putting your head in the sand? You can not improve your relationship with money if you turn the blind eye to it. Make a promise to yourself to look at your bank account and look for ways to raise that money limit. Affirm every morning when you wake up (in your head and while you are still sleepy to reprogram your money mindset) positive affirmations around money like:
I have more money than I need.
I attract money like a magnet.
I am open to new ideas as to ways to increase or multiply my income.
I love money and money loves me and has my back.
Do this healthy money routine each morning and you’ll see how much better you’ll feel around money.
Be mindful and pay attention to any limiting (negative) thoughts that you have in your mind around money and create new empowering and positive beliefs around money and add them to your list. Soon, you would have transformed your mindset around money. Keep being focused and disciplined when it comes to repairing your money mindset and relationship with money.
The more positive mindset you will have around money, the more new and fresh ideas will come to you in order to increase your revenue. It could be finding a new job, changing a job, creating something that you can sell, providing a service online, etc. Stay open to these ideas and apply them. The universe might even send you new opportunities your way because it now reads your new frequency around money! Be open to receive!
I wish you a beautiful, healthy and bountiful relationship with money beautiful soul!
Let me know below if you have any questions around the topic of money mindset.
Mystical Queen Goddess
Counselling therapist, spiritual guide and creator of the Transformation 360 method