9. The biggest shift you have to make in order to get over him!

Since your childhood, some of you had been abused in a way or another so you have learned to walk on eggshells and put all your attention on others. You learned to hide your true self in order to be accepted, to reject yourself in order to be loved, to say what they wanted to hear in order to be safe and secure. You forgot about yourself and you learned to be in survival mode because you had to survive! You were dependent on the authority figures in your life so you had no choice but to deny yourself the right to be loved for simply whom you were and to be accepted and recognized for your difference and unique personality.
 
Today, you find yourself stuck in the same pattern but rather with your ex-partner. You want him to come back to you and love you the way you would want to be loved. You want him to make you feel important and a priority in his life, to be faithful and loving towards you. The thing you don’t see right now is that you are still waiting for someone that is exterior to you to give you something that you can give yourself.
 
You are not in a position of needing someone anymore to make your feel loved and secure. Still, you keep yourself in this victim mentality, where you are not obtaining what you truly deserve. How can you get out of this victim position and take your power back and most importantly, are you ready to take your power back? To not give the satisfaction of your needs to someone else? Are you ready to turn all the focus and attention on to yourself and to give yourself the love and importance that you seek? It takes only one decision, the decision to become the most important person in your life.
 
I used to be a victim of my love mentality. That someone else should love me and I refused to love myself. That someone else should make me his priority and not making myself a priority. That someone else should fulfill my needs and not myself. I was stuck in this position where I was giving my power away and felt so stuck. Stuck in attracting the wrong type of men that treated me poorly or that were emotional unavailable. I was stuck in doing everything so that my ex would come back to me. I was so obsessed with this idea that he was the one for me and that no one else could give me what he gave me. I was so wrong. I had no little idea of what true, unconditional love was. I had no idea of how much love and affection and emotional availability a partner could give me until I met my true love soulmate partner.
 
This is what I wish for you but it was a long road for me and I can save you years of hardship and anxiety. I can help you transform these negative limiting beliefs that keep you stuck and help you talk through and transform that trauma so that you open yourself up to true love and that you find peace of mind and get your self-esteem back. 
 
Are you ready to transform yourself in order to take your power back and open yourself up to true unconditional love? Book a discovery call with me so that we see if we are a fit to work together. Take advantage of the fact that I am mentor whom still gives one on one mentoring and therapy sessions so I will give you all my undivided attention vs. a group setting where you have to share your allotted time. Take advantage of my unique method of transforming limiting beliefs in a matter of seconds (no one knows this technique since I invented it myself and it completely transformed my life). 

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